The second option

Anyone else always feel like the backup plan? It’s so annoying. Dating, friends, family and all. Always getting treated like an option meanwhile the terrible options that are obvious always get the best treatment. I hate coming off like a victim but it’s like man what am I doing wrong??? Always the second option, always the one nobody cares to see/hear from like why?? It’s always unprovoked as well like man I give the space to talk to me. I make it clear that I’m willing to have those “difficult” conversations and still the communication isn’t there. I try to be lovable even when I’m given reasons to be hateful but that’s just not appreciated nowadays.