Update#4 AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my kids and exwife after 2 years of false allegations?
Seriously, what the fuck NOW?!
So things have gotten even more messed up, although on a technicality I guess it's not on my end.
On Tuesday, my Saturday, I get woken up by my mom knocking on my door. After I let her in, the first thing she says is "I have something to tell you, but don't freak out."
I'm on medication for anxiety that I have to take twice a day at minimum. I had just woken up so I didn't take my medication yet. Can you guess what I started doing?
She then tells me that my ex and the kids got kicked out of the house that they were living in that belongs to my ex friend and his wife. My mom told me she found this out from my stepdad because my ex stays in contact with him pretty regularly but has my mom blocked on everything possible. Mom had already filed a CPS report on her because, at the time, we believed my ex and the kids were living in her car.
My ex has no income other than occasionally delivering groceries for Walmart and the child support the state deducts from my paycheck. She had no place in line to move in to, as far as we knew, so I started freaking out and called my sister. My sister still talks with my ex but won't talk to our mom for completely unrelated reasons. I asked my sister if she knew what happened, if she knew where my kids were, and to tell me where they were so I can make sure they were safe.
My sister DID already know but didn't tell me, but she did assure me that they were in a house and that she had a video call with the kids and screen shots to prove that they were in a house and safe. Luckily this helped calm me down a bit.
Later, I called the child support office and ask them if the address for my ex was still the previous address and informed them that she had gotten kicked out, but that I didn't have the new address to give them. The case worker told me that the address had not been updated but to reach out if I found out the address, just in case she didn't contact them with the updated address.
At this point I've done all I can do, legally anyway, so I try to relax and chill out because I know that I'm just stuck playing the waiting game again. Then the mail ran.
I got the papers from my sons ER visit back in June. It doesn't say anything about a concussion, just that he had a contusion on his head and to treat it with an ice pack and ibuprofen. He had a goddamned bruise that could have come from ANYTHING. I love my son, but he's so clumsy it's ridiculous. He once walked face first into a tree because he wasn't wearing his glasses or watching where he was going at a playground that we had gone to.
I ended up getting myself out of the house and went out of town for a while just driving around. I ended up at the river that separates my state from the next one and sitting in a park while watching the boats and barges go by, listening to the music playing in the park and the water. I talked to my girlfriend while I was there and ended up having a borderline emotional breakdown wondering what I could have done to make them all hate me that much to try and get me in prison for things I never did.
I have an appointment with my therapist on Tuesday so she's going to learn all the new and exciting things happening in my life /S. My girlfriend ended up coming over and staying the night to keep me company and support me through dealing with all of this new information. I have no idea how I'm going to repay her for being so kind and understanding and supportive. She keeps dismissing whenever I say thank you because she says that she's just listening and being a human and knows that I have proof that I didn't do anything that they've been accusing me of.
I'm feeling so much right now I can't make heads or tails of it. I talked to my boss and took an extra day off to help myself process this and he's going to use some of my PTO to cover for me. I'm not going to do it, but damn do I want a drink.
Posted Oct 2, 2025, 8:03 PM UTC