am i expecting too much?

i've been single for a long while now, tried talking to a few guys. they've generally been nice to talk to, good humour, occasional vibe matches and stuff. one thing that gives me a huge ick is that they like and interact with thirst traps or just general posts of other female influencers who don't even know them. having a celebrity crush is pretty common but if he has sydney sweeney or some celebrity like that whose whole career is based off male gaze, it's an immediate ick for me. it's like, if i'm not doing these things, its rightful of me to expect these traits in my partner as well. one guy i was talking to even called another girl "smash" in front of me. i was like dude? what is crazy that he wanted to be set up with me. not lusting over other people, not interacting with thirst traps of people who don't even know you.. these things are like basic loyalty, its the bare minimum to me. i'm honestly sick of being disappointed repeatedly.