Genuinely, HOW DO YO DO THIS??

In a way, i'm blessed that I left my hardcore gooner days in my teens (3-4 times A DAY). For the past few years, it's been calm. Masturbation addiction, not the worst, once per day or two or three. Porn addiction, ehh not that bad. The maiin issue I had was a dating apps addiction (and subsequently nudes/videos from girls on snapchat - which almost definitely replaced porn).

Recently, within the past 2 months I've decided to call all of this shit off mainly due to me not wanting to develop some weird kinks/fetishes I didn't want (jury is still out on whether I developed any or not lmao). Anyway, so I was like alright time for nofap, noporn no dating apps. From trying this for over a month, i've noticed that:

The first week is a breeze, No issues. Fighting urges is pathetically easy.

Second week is harder but doable.

Starting the third week? GG. No chance. The urges just flood out of nowhere and I get this wave of sexual energy that I can't just sit out. It's like an eczema itch that's so fucking hard not to scratch - a regular itch? no problem, but this? Impossible.

As always, I do the usual download tinder and talk to chicks and get nudes and videos etc. I never meetup to fuck, because hookups don't sit right with me but it's kind of like more intense porn in a way (especially if they send freaky videos which I often think like this is some cuck shit lmao). Then I delete it, think I'm lame asf and repeat. This time around, I broke it even earlier, few days after week 1. I can't beat that sudden wave of urges 1-3 weeks in.

What gives man...