Confused about my long-distance relationship dynamic (25F & 36M)

I’m a 25F (Libra) in an LDR with a 36M (Scorpio). We met online and have been talking/dating “officially” for about 6 months. We plan to meet in January.

There are things I really like about him. He’s sweet, romantic at times, remembers details I tell him, shares personal things, sends small thoughtful gifts, talks about a future, has told his family about me, and genuinely seems emotionally invested. He calls me his wife, talks about marriage, and even talks about wanting to get me pregnant. We text/call/video all the time and he says he feels “withdrawals” when we don’t talk for more than an hour. He’s been cheated on before, so I understand where some of his sensitivity might come from.

Here’s the part I’m struggling with: he’s very intense, sensitive, and sometimes feels controlling/possessive/jealous. He always wants to know what I’m doing or who I’m with. And his sexual intensity is… a lot. Almost every conversation eventually turns sexual, usually focused on my “cookie.” He sends explicit videos of himself every morning, and sometimes multiple times a day. He’s also sent me a video of him doing his thing while we were having a movie night. I currently have about 60 explicit videos of him. I feel like the ratio of romance to sexual talk is around 30/70.

When I tried setting a boundary once, he got passive-aggressive and said things like “Fine, I won’t ever send a video again” or “I won’t ever ask for a picture again.” Eventually he reassured me he loves me, but the guilt-tripping bothered me. Of course, that didn’t last and a day later it was back to the sexual videos of him getting off.

When we first met, he was very pushy and showed strong love-bombing traits. That’s calmed down a bit, but it still lingers. We had an argument once when I confronted him about the love-bombing where he said he shouldn’t be “labeled” for being obsessed or in love.

I guess I’m confused. Part of me feels he really cares, but part of me feels oversexualized and worried about the intensity, jealousy, and boundary-pushing. I don’t know if this is normal, a red flag, attachment issues, or something else.

Would appreciate outside perspectives. What should I be paying attention to here? Has anyone dealt with something similar in an LDR?