Does not feeling sexually attracted to my male partner means im not bi but gay?
Hi,
I am a 27yo f who identifies as bisexual. I have dated and had sex with women but because of a long and tough conflict with my religious parents about my sexuality, those experiences were always somewhat difficult. I knew that bringing a woman home would be a problem. 3 years ago we fixed that conflict and I have been with my male partner for 4 years.
My sexuality has become quite a prominent thing lately. I find myself being drawn to gay books, movies and people. The books/movies can be wlw or mlm but straight content does not really exite me anymore.
While having sex i realised that i can like the feeling a lot and also have orgasms but when i look at my partner i dont feel sexual attraction. His body does not make my very horny. There is no magnetic desire to touch him. Usually looking at my body makes me more horny. So the sex feels very pleasurable but i dont feel horny towards him.
I am worried this means I might be fully into women. When i masturbate i usually think about a female body. During sex images of mlm or wlw also do make me horny. Does anyone relate? Or have some advice?
Posted Dec 9, 2025, 8:45 AM UTC