the real problem of mother-son enmeshment

The real problem with mother-son enmeshment isn't mil. The real problem is the emotional maturity of the enmeshed son. Your partner may be 50 or 60, a doctor or a lawyer, but he needs his mother. He hasn't grown up. He hasn't had an adolescence, he hasn't created an identity separate from his mother. Your partner is not an adult. He's a child, fragile and insecure. You need a man and he doesn't know what that means. His mother treats him like a child, and he feels protected. You treat him like a man, and he's scared. The only help is therapy. A therapist can help him grow, if he wants it.