As someone who is put on a pedestal due to my body.. I wonder, do we need better outlets for male sexuality… and better boundaries when someone’s body hits hard?

Just asking this straight up and in good faith.

I’m a male personal trainer, work mostly with men, who mostly end up to be bi/gay/closeted men, and I’m very visibly built. Big legs, big glutes, big pecs, etc.. it's part of my job, but it brings up some topics i have to deal with at work.

Over the years, I’ve realized my body straight up short-circuits some guys’ brains. I’ve had men admit later they couldn’t think clearly around me. Others eventually tell me they’ve been fantasizing constantly or using my pics as motivation in… private ways. I dont want to sound conceited at all, I just seem to have an ass that makes guys "act up".. That part doesn’t always bother me (considering the context). Attraction is attraction. I take it as a compliment.

Where things get weird isn’t desire — it’s how badly some men don't know what to do with or or cross boundaries. A lot of dudes are clearly carrying shame around masturbation, attraction to other men, or even just appreciating a male body. So instead of being honest with themselves, it leaks out sideways. Mixed signals. Awkward energy. Or, in a few cases, straight-up boundary issues. I have literally had underwear stolen from me multiple times in my life. That’s obviously not okay, but can be understood with some context of whats happening in the guys life.

So that’s where I’m stuck thinking:

• Do men need more shame-free spaces to admit “yeah, I’m horny sometimes” without acting like idiots about it?
• Are we actually teaching men how to manage arousal, or just telling them to suppress it and hope it doesn’t explode sideways?
• How do you acknowledge strong physical attraction, especially when someone’s body really does hit a biological switch, without crossing lines?
• Where’s the line between “this stays in my head/private life” and “this becomes disrespectful”?

I’m not anti-sex, anti-masturbation, or anti-attraction. I play a part and am fully aware that when i do thirst traps, it also helps me get more interested training clients. So i can't bea hypocrite. I actually think pretending this stuff doesn’t exist makes men worse at handling it. I’m trying to figure out how we build a version of masculinity where guys can be honest about desire, masturbation, and have radical honesty without shame, and still respect boundaries like grown men.

Curious how other guys see this — especially trainers, coaches, therapists, or anyone who’s dealt with being put on a pedestal because of their body.