I try to have empathy, but...

Just need to put this out there to people who get it.

I (62f) went on a first date last weekend. It didn't take me long to figure out it wasn't a match. Long story short, I'm a PhD and he was a slow thinker and talker. Otherwise a good guy, but just not right for me. I thought he would be great for someone else.

That is until he started sending looong texts about why wouldn't I see him again. That people sign up for apps and then don't want to go out.

I get that there is an epidemic of loneliness, especially for single men our age. So I responded that I get stood up and ghosted too, and that he was cute and funny and I was sure he'd be great for the right person. I asked if he had tried Meetup. A dating version of the old piece of wisdom about trying to leave things better than you found them.

And then his texts got longer and angrier and 'don't push my limits' .

So I told him he was getting scary, that you can't force a relationship, and that I would be blocking him. And I did.

If he is that miserable, why can't he do what I do, get out there and go to Meetups and do things? Why do I have to be the answer to his problems?

Sigh. Thank you for listening.