I might be wildly off the mark here, but.....

One of my ex pwBPD's exes couldn't get over her, and I was always slightly irritated by his constant presence in our world. She moved to NY and that's where he lived, and I was staying in CA. I kept waiting for her to go back to him. Now that I know more about how this personality disorder works, I think she was dating him as well for a while, telling me they were just friends. She hoovered him at least three times over the course of a year and a half.

He killed himself about a year ago now. And I think I know why finally. All he wanted was her back. And in the end, he wasn't her FP, so he was forgotten. I think he killed himself over her.

I have been sitting here in horror because it feels like it's exactly what happened. And I don't think she has a clue of how much she destroyed him. She constantly would tell me how much he wanted her back. I could so be reading too much into this, but I can't shake that is feels like it's the reason.

I guess I'll go back to putting pictures and newspaper articles on the wall and connecting them with yarn.