Is finding a gay hookup actually hard?

I’m asking because I’m starting to think that there’s an issue with me for not even getting offers. I’m 20 and other single gay men I know have sex multiple times a month at least and seem to have no trouble, but I’ve only had it once at 19 and it feels horrible because the goal to sexually explore seems so simple but I’ve struggled with it for years. I’ve always been single not by choice too.

I’m not sure what to do now, I’ve taken and done advice like Grindr, events, outings, and the general love yourself first talk, except Grindr is hidden by a paywall and seems to be a breeding ground for nasty individuals that don’t represent the gay community anyway. I like to value someone’s personality and interests a lot too so I don’t know if that makes things harder. Honestly, does my situation mean I have a low desirability value or something? Is unwanted inexperience looked down upon when you’re gay?