When they say "try" to break the generational trauma cycle but pass it on anyways

My nparent was bullied by family and friends for being "the fat kid", I guess what they learned from this lesson was fat = bad and not once considering that maybe it was the ridicule that caused their trauma.

They didn't want me to get bullied and go through the same thing, so to "break the cycle", they restricted my food (what I ate, how much, etc.) shamed me for eating "bad foods"/having seconds when at family gatherings or parties and also added 30 minutes of exercise on the treadmill as part of my daily chores.

As a result, I developed BED and self esteem issues. Yay.