Is PF a way forward for us after difficult ttimes?

Im 51 and wife is 55, and we are together for 24 years. We were vanilla kids etc and around 11 years ago i introduced large penis sleeves, led to huge, led to pussy stretching to permanently very loose, cuckold fantasy, intense huge penis sleeve pounding, severe PE, PE humiliation, chastity with periods of 5 weeks locked and denied, chastity reverse pegging, and finally solo date cuckolding in october 2025. She got pounded roughly to 5 squirting orgasms by a hung dom bull but not sm. She said she totally surrendered to him and loved it but it scared her how much a slut she became.

Then things went bad when during another date in a swingers club she had a reliving of her child abuse. We are both going to individual therapy and couples. We had no sex at all since april and since last week just restarted oral and petting. Its going well.

I loved being her subby locked and denied but currently she says absolutely no way cuckolding and 100% vanilla because she is afraid of losing herself again. In our playtime now she is leading and i like it. But, i cannot say im looking forward to piv with my pe. I loved denial so im thinking of asking her for now no piv but if she wants penetration we can use, fingers, fisting, dildos and eventually strapons or sleeves. Maybe numbing cream would be a possubility, weve used it before and it anazing to pound her but also be denied.

Im thinking PF is a realistic way forward for us if she also would like it. I cant ever even imagine being able to have normal thrusting piv for more than 10 20 seconds without cumming and i can never give it to her like she prefers.