My sister in law saw me without makeup for the first time and said “you look so different”

She has commented weird things before like “your nose is so perfect have you got plastic surgery”

I feel blind sided every time she has commented about my appearance. She seems to have no filter

I could have said “you look like an aunty” That day but I didn’t. But she had to say “u look so different” when she saw me without makeup.

I don’t know how to tell her to shut the fuck up about my appearance without being rude

I don’t know why I care about being rude when she clearly doesn’t

I have social anxiety and I freeze whenever I get these comments out of no where. I feel blind sided and completely frozen in my mind and nothing comes to me as to what to say to shut this shit down or to turn the tables and make her self conscious.

I just fucking hate this

It goes back to my childhood. I would be perfectly comfortable and relaxed and then suddenly someone would comment on my appearance out of nowhere. And I would have no idea what to say or how to react. And then I would get angry much later at home. And I would feel shame and insecure

I feel like I can’t just fucking relax, that every time I have to go out I have to look perfect otherwise someone will comment that I look “so different” whatever the fuck that means

I couldn’t even fucking think to say “what do you mean by that” to put her on the spot and make her explain

I feel like shit