Support links and reading materials [will be updated whenever new materials come to our attention]

First off, a trigger warning. If you're successfully maintaining a no contact situation, you might not want to read any of this. Your happiness and peace of mind is more important that trying to understand disorders of other people!

If your parent has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD):

• Co-Narcissism: How We Accommodate to Narcissistic Parents - Alan Rappoport, Ph.D.

• Characteristics of Narcissistic Fathers

• Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers

• Gaslighting

If your parent has borderline personality disorder (BPD):

• Surviving a borderline parent

• Understanding the borderline mother

Self help books and further insight:

• Treating Traumatic Stress in Children and Adolescents: How to Foster Resilience through Attachment, Self-Regulation, and Competency

• Thoughts and Feelings: Taking Control of Your Moods and Your Life

Miscellaneous:

• Covert incest
• Financial abuse
• The Debt - When terrible, abusive parents come crawling back...
• Possible reasons why we get into toxic relationships.

Please leave whatever materials you find appropriate down in the comments. Remember that sometimes the best thing to do is just to accept yourself and live life! Don't overexpose yourself to things that trigger sad memories. Balance is best. If reading A Song of Ice and Fire makes you happier than self help books, switch to that :)