r/parentlessbychoice

422 archived posts · Jun 2014 – Mar 2016

Parentless by choice - for those of us that no longer have contact with our parent(s).

A place for those of us that broke free from abusive parents.

Created Jun 16, 2014 · restricted

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This is a safe haven for people that have broken contact with their parent(s) after growing up in an abusive home and for those that are seriously considering doing so.

This subreddit is exclusively about No Contact (NC)!!! Before posting or commenting, read all of this sidebar text and take note of our rules explained in this link! (click here)
Tell us your story! We take anything you say seriously and we don't judge.
Never think your story is "not that bad". Victims of parental abuse often feel that way because they grew up learning that "it's normal" from parents that were supposed to be their role model. It's not normal!
Similarly, when commenting assume that "No Contact" is a necessity for the poster. Nobody breaks contact with their parents on a whim or out of spite!
Ask us anything, we are all going through much the same things that you're coping with.

It does not matter why you choose to be parentless, whether it's because of narcissistic abuse, sexual abuse, addicted parents, or whatever other reason, even if you can't find a label for it. You don't have to justify your decision to anybody.

If you want to talk about it, we'll listen.
If you want advice, we'll do our best to give it to you.
NO low effort posts (3 sentences and a go ahead for advice is a low effort post).
If you're new to reddit, please read this first!!! (click this link)
Try not to mix in serious issues that don't have anything to do with going No Contact. We're about No Contact, we're not about validating your every move or opinion, your sexual identity, your life choices, pro or anti drug debates or whatever else. It's not a judgement either way, it's simply off topic. Off topic content may be removed silently.

This is meant to be a place of peaceful reflection and discussion on the hardest decision you've had to make in your life. You know there's no going back on this painful decision without risking the destruction of your peace of mind or ending up holding the pieces of your life once more.

General trigger warning: some of the content in here may contain triggers for those that are not in a position to leave their abusive home or break contact (or for those that don't want to).

We strongly encourage you to read our primary ally r/raisedbynarcissists instead if this is the situation you are currently living in!!

Speak your mind, ask anything and respect people's choice to live their lives without their parents!

Resources:

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

r/BPD

r/BPDSOFFA

r/BPDlovedones

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

r/raisedbynarcissists

Collection of misc. links

Support links and other reading materials

Other communities

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