I'm going to start being assertive
It's hurting my self esteem not feeling assured enough to refuse to disclose intimate details about a matter I don't feel comfortable sharing. I'm going to regain my confidence and start being firm with people who pry to a point that is rude.
When anyone asks me insensitive questions regarding it, instead of passively answering I'm going to reply: "that is a private matter." Or "I don't want to discuss it." No attempts at vague answers to satisfy curiosity or idle gossip- a firm but polite 'no.' It's them being rude, not me and I shouldn't feel cornered or obligated to discuss my private life.
Posted Oct 19, 2014, 3:55 PM UTC
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You're right. Your private life is yours, and yours to share if you will. Don't let others pry for their curiosity or for entertainment sake.... share with those close who can help or bear the burden with you. All other need not pry. Be strong and firm, but polite. Short yet make sure it's clear you wish not to share. Those who value you will respect you and allow you to go to them if need be, all others have the wrong motive. Be strong.
Besides a real friend would support and be there for you even if they never knew a single detail. Ever