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grimpaper

Uncoordinated Ns undermine each others attacks on me.

[Happy/Funny]

I have to snort at this one. N1 shoots "It's not like we think about you often. We have our own fulfilling lives. Can you say the same?" while N2 shoots "How does it feel breaking your mother's and father's (and sibling's) heart every day?"

Yup. Pretty obvious they're both just meant to try to hurt me and don't actually mean anything when they contradict each other like that. I don't need people trying to hurt me in my life.

Posted Apr 2, 2015, 3:15 AM UTC

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branchero•

Logically, they just told you their hearts aren't connected to their minds. Which kinda explains everything.

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samtravis•

This took me along time to really understand. Literally EVERYTHING my Ns said was thought-out and planned to get some specific reaction. If the truth didn't fit, it was instantly and remorselessly discarded, to be replaced by a lie that would serve the Ns purposes. Every. Single. Thing. The only times I heard the truth were the times that it accidentally lined up with whatever kind of N-supply I was supposed to be providing at that time. It's hilarious to me that your Ns are doing the same thing but in opposite directions. Did you mention the first discussion to the second N? I would have just to hear them sputter and cast about for a third lie that they thought you would believe.

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grimpaperOP•

No they're both breaking NC to do this. I'm certain if I tried back before the NC I would just get screamed vitriol though. There's no reasoning -- object and it's a vile spew of put downs. They distract by destroying.

But yes, EVERYTHING is about trying to abuse and nothing is about reality with Ns. Truly awful people.

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frettingranddaughter•

If the truth didn't fit, it was instantly and remorselessly discarded, to be replaced by a lie that would serve the Ns purposes. Every. Single. Thing.

This! And the old "truths" are completely removed from their memory banks.

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MoontoyaThe Dork Narcador•

The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference

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littlefillup•

I lold to that one. You would think they would at least sync up their attacks. Ns say the darndest things.

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John-DakerADoN SG NC•

Ns seem to work on payback, revenge and just deserts, in my experience. They feel like you're trying to hurt them by staying away, so they try to hurt you because you "deserve" it. Whereas actually you're trying to stop them hurting you, and the only way to do that is to stay away. Biiiiig difference.

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