Me [35 M] with my wife [29F] of five years, wants a divorce after I requested a paternity test [Final Update]

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I realize now that I'm not exactly someone you want to sympathize with, and I'm sorry. I do love Marissa and want to be a better husband and father.

But I will not get that chance. In therapy, our therapist had us lay everything out on the table, and I admitted that I was an unfair hypocrite. She admitted that she's happier without me, despite being a single mother for all intents and purposes.

We attempted to talk it through, with her laying out her terms to re-enter the marriage. I still I feel I did not cheat on her because she left me with no discussion of terms, she feels I cheated because we were still married and actively discussing her eventually rebuilding her trust in me and moving back home.

We agreed to try another therapy session, but Tuesday morning she cancelled it and she filed for divorce.

We had dinner that night. She told me she was sorry, but she didn't think it would work because her trust at this point was irrevocably broken.

I told her it was okay. We sat down and talked about visitation until she leaves in January, when she will be moving to her home state with an opportunity that grants her more money and better benefits, including on-site daycare.

She told me she harbors no hard feelings towards me, but she wishes it hadn't ended this way. I told her it didn't have to, but she disagreed and said it did.

I told her I'd give her access to my phone and such, but the fact that I did that to her left a sour taste in her mouth about it, and she doesn't want a relationship where it's considered normal to not share/rifle through the other person's things for "no reason," as she put it.

We agreed on child support, and we will get it in writing. I make a comparable amount to what she will be making, so we agreed to split Baby's expenses. Baby will be on her insurance. I gave her a check for the amount for the amino.

Anything else we can think of? I know there's no chance of getting my wife back now, but how can I be a good dad to Baby long distance? We talked about me eventually moving to be in proximity (she made sure to emphasize for baby, that we will not be getting back together,) but I'm locked into a contract until next December at least.

tl;dr: Wife pulled the divorce trigger. How can I be a good Dad to my child long distance?