Dear Enablers: You are abusers too and out of my life

For years I was deluded into thinking that the Enablers were better because they weren't harming me. That's not true. Just because they weren't harming me directly like the Ns, doesn't mean they hadn't abdicated their duties as adults or really as decent human beings. Much like an N, they valued 'appearances' and selfish ease over my personal safety. They make a CHOICE to allow the abuse. It's easier to let the child take the abuse than to stand up to an adult after all. It's easier to let the child take the abuse than to deal with the community 'talking.' Even now that I'm an adult, their lies make my life and safety more difficult. It's easier to let the victim be painted as 'mental problems' rather than admit that they too helped the abuser.

Enablers are toxic abusers. They may not be loud like the N. They may not be direct like the N. Make no mistake though, their ACTIONS (some of which are in-actions) and CHOICES are abusive. They are just as disgusting as Ns.

I'm not going to try to keep relationships with Efamily anymore as they are disgusting, worthless, abusive, scum too. Doing so only hurts me and even if I didn't have to fight the N for them, there would be no one of value at the other end.