Using Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs to Discuss the "Proper" Order to Achieve TRP Goals
Summary:
TRP is at its base about self-improvement. It teaches game, fashion, fitness, health, diet, etc all so that men can improve themselves. What I never realized was that there is an order these need to be accomplished in - fitness, both mental and physical (this includes diet), is key. Improve the others as well, but focus on those two.
Body:
This post is mainly for the new and/or young guys. It's my account of how I misinterpreted crucial TRP tenets and crashed and burned harder than before I knew about TRP. When I first saw TRP some two or three years ago, I deeply believed that all it really took was money, a proper diet, and better fashion to succeed in life. When I began all three of these things I went from completely incel to occasional sex. In my mind, this was success, because I was doing things I'd never done before - partying, getting numbers, making lots of friends, etc.
What I wasn't paying attention to was my actual health and discipline. I half-heartedly lifted, but prioritized drinking, which led to very slow gains. I half-heartedly worked, but would take days off to cheat on my girlfriend with a plate. I half-heartedly did mental exercises such as meditation, math, learning a second language, but I didn't deal with near-constant mood swings and other massive red flags.
I eventually unsubbed from TRP and got into drug use. After a trip to a detox center courtesy of my family, I was diagnosed with BPD (yeah that same thing all of your problem women have) and given Venlafaxine (brand name Effexor). Ever since, I feel like an actual man and not an effeminate male or a little boy.
The takeaway here that I want you new or young guys to get is:
If you think you have a problem, get help.
Refusing to seek help led me to impregnating my favorite plate, almost led to my entire fraternity falling apart, and much more.
This is only one personal example, but we can look at psychology in order to get better-written examples. There was once a famous psychologist named Abraham Maslow who developed a system that he called the Hierarchy of Needs. A great many of you either play lots of video games or used to back in your BP days. Think of the Hierarchy as levels in a game - you can't reach level 3 without reaching level 2, etc. The Hierarchy describes the order in which a man (when Maslow was alive, female psychology was about as well-respected as a modern degree in Basketweaving or Gender Studies) must meet his various needs in order to healthily survive. The Hierarchy is as follows, from first to last.
Physiological
Safety
Love/Belonging
Esteem
Self-actualization
What these actually break down into is the following:
Physiological means things such as breathing air, drinking water, eating food, sleeping, having sex, and taking care of your mental health. If you have problems with any of these and can't seem to fix them, visit a doctor. It may take them a while to fix them, but you can't progress to step two without them all working properly.
Safety is relatively self-explanatory. It is about having the security that you can defend yourself and your family, as well as being secure that you are going to lose neither your home nor your job.
Love/Belonging is again, somewhat self-explanatory. These are things such as friendships, family bonds, and sexual intimacy. Note that sex falls under Physiological, but sexual intimacy falls under Love/Belonging. The key takeaway here is, if you are not functioning healthily (step 1) and not in a secure and content mindset (step 2), you will only have toxic relationships - because you are the toxic one.
Esteem is all about your self-esteem as well as how much you respect and are respected by other people. This goes hand in hand with your confidence, and is actually where the majority of guys new to TRP seem to drop out. This is where you have to start developing the IDGAF attitude as well as begin approaching and talking to strangers in order to make friends, allies, plates, partners, etc.
Self-actualization is where the endgame TRPers have reached. This is where the dudes with trophy wives, harems of plates, beautiful houses and cars, six figure jobs, guys who are ECs, etc have typically made it. Here, you begin to develop an intensely personal set of accomplishments - morality, creativity, spontaneity, the ability to calmly accept truths that once would've made you incredibly salty.
Lesson Learned:
I once believed that TRP was a huge lake full of information and I could jump right into the middle of it all. It isn't. It's a ladder, and before you reach the top, you have to climb up all of the rungs.
Posted Apr 5, 2016, 8:37 PM UTC
Maslow is one of my favorite psychologists. He is best known today for his Hierarchy of Needs, however, IMO his most interesting work is his study of self-actualizing individuals. Rather than attempt to understand human nature through studying the sick and maladapted, Maslow studied highly successful people.
His book Motivation and Personality has some of this work, definitely something that Red Pill men interested in psychology and personal growth would find valuable.
Putting this on the list to read right now. Future psych student.
Prepare to be disappointed
Please no
http://archive.is/SVQdF
That's great but I want to try it first. I love philosophy I love the mind I live thoughts and I'm personally mentally ill and want to help the field advance. This guy wants money.
That guy is me and I agree with you although I love psychology and philosophy. I heard a saying that you should major in something lucrative and minor in what you love.
If you're really headstrong about psychology I wish you the best of luck and hope you find the answers you're looking for.
Prepare to have a life of low income prospects and/or unemployement:
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/25-college-majors-with-the-highest-unemployment-rates/
Yes because the number hasn't changed since 2011 also that's one specific major. I don't know what I want to do in my life just yet and I have all of college to figure it out.
Libgen Link for anyone interested
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