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Emack76

Starting slow

So it's been over 10 years since we've had a play-date. We met a beautiful couple who are local to us and hit if off pretty well on the first date. We're compatible in that we want the same things out of the lifestyle and don't get to play very often given kids and so forth. The wife and I were very nervous so we're happy that we specifically setup that first dinner such that we couldn't play afterwards (had to pick up kids).

We decided we wanted to play with them and offered a few dates, with this weekend being one of them. We advertised right out of the gate that this weekend might be sketchy because it may be 'that time' for my wife. Is it normal to be up front about that?

Yesterday, Aunt Flo came to visit. There's some disappointment, but I think my wife is also a bit relieved because she was super-nervous! She was never this nervous back in the day. Anywho - We communicated the news to our friends and they said they'd still like to get together to hang out because it took effort for them to get a sitter and whatnot. It'll be fun, if vanilla. That's cool. I think my wife could use some more time getting to know them anyway.

Does anyone else convert their play-dates to vanilla-dates when something like this comes up?

-Have fun this weekend, you horny swingers!

Posted Nov 18, 2016, 4:28 PM UTC

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MrsUpTheButtGirl39F/41M - South Jersey•

Get a Softcup. She inserts the softcup and she can have clean, odor-free, vaginal sex. Very simple.

The only disadvantage to the softcup is that I can't use my period as an excuse for men to fuck me in the ass.

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Emack76OP40m/40f Mid-Mo•

Who needs an excuse?

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MrsUpTheButtGirl39F/41M - South Jersey•

Yay!

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noitcereserM42F42•

Does anyone else convert their play-dates to vanilla-dates when something like this comes up?

If it was a first meet, we would probably offer that just to demonstrate that we aren't flakes.

Alternatively, if the flow is light and the woman isn't feeling un-sexy or self-conscious, douche & soft cups or sponges can save the day. Many adult men have no problem with period sex. My wife has done this 3 times by telling the guy and offering him a chance to pass... none did. We also had an amazing 6-some where 2 of the women were on their period. One of the girls showed up disappointed because it had just started on the drive there, so the other girls wisked her into the shower for cleanup & prep and we all had a fantastic evening.

My wife has also delayed the onset of her period for a few days using strategic birth control pills, but that can be an emotional rollercoaster week.

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MrsUpTheButtGirl39F/41M - South Jersey•

but that can be an emotional rollercoaster week

We're women, honey. Sometimes we just pull that shit so you don't give us a hard time when we want to buy new shoes.

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Emack76OP40m/40f Mid-Mo•

If it was a first meet, we would probably offer that just to demonstrate that we aren't flakes.

That was our thought precisely!

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newjackswingerN. Tx. Bi Triad!•

We sure have. Go bowling! Here's why it is a perfect vanilla swinger activity.

  1. It is fun
  2. There's plenty of time to socialize
  3. There's plenty of time to drink if you like that sort of thing
  4. As you move through the rotation it forces different seating arrangements
  5. Different arrangements, different people to flirt with!
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Emack76OP40m/40f Mid-Mo•

Update: The play-date that turned into a vanilla date went very well! Good times!

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SwapFuSwingers, Podcasters M47/F51 San Antonio•

We certainly have. My wife's cycle is very unpredictable so we long ago started saying "periods happen" and just kept the date or attended the party or whatever... with full disclosure. People understand and know that there's a pretty good chance play wasn't going to happen anyway.

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Fireman_R•

Just experienced this very thing this past weekend, but with a slight twist. My play partner and I enjoyed each others company largely vanilla, while my wife and the other husband had a weekend of naughty fun.

I expected to feel somewhat envious and was prepared to deal with that, but instead felt very happy for what my wife was able to experience.

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Emack76OP40m/40f Mid-Mo•

That's great!

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Emack76OP40m/40f Mid-Mo•

After re-reading, that's quite a twist. So y'all played separately for the weekend? Did you both know going into it that your playmate may not be as playful?

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Fireman_R•

The day before our arrival, my play partner communicated that her cycle had started. We agreed to continue with our weekend plans as she and my wife had a fun class together on Saturday. The other husband and I just hung out for the day and I made dinner for everyone.

Playtime for me centered around giving my partner a long sensual massage, although, at times, I was a bit distracted by the wonderful sounds coming from down the hall in the living room. ;)

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Emack76OP40m/40f Mid-Mo•

Sounds like there was good communication. That's good to hear.

Yes, indeed. Maybe next time you can discuss giving your lady that MFM experience?

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Fireman_R•

Done ;)

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