Emack76

Hey there,

A recent event in my life has, as far as I can tell, given me a lingering anxiety issue. It went down about 6 weeks ago and the event itself caused me to have a 3 day anxiety inducing adrenaline rush. I was extremely angry. The source of the issue (people) was never resolved, but has been removed mostly from my life for the last 4 weeks.

After an intense weekend of physical and mental exertion this thing rared it's head in an ugly way yesterday. Trembling, rapid heart beat, dry mouth, feeling out of control, tight chest, short of breath, etc... Many of the signs. I even had a few of those laugh/cry/shout in anger moments where multiple emotions pour out at once. I cried fo

In need of a glass/pyrex toy for anal play and can't seem to find the right one. Preferences include:

• Length: ~8" (+/- 1")

• Circumference: 5.7" to 6"

• Not textured (smooth)

• Round base

• Groove at the bottom to hold it in (edit: like a lot of anal toys, there's a place for the sphincters to 'grip')

Any ideas?

EDIT: budget not a big issue, and a straight, smooth toy would be what we're after. A smooth, friction free surface is the idea and a lot of texture isn't desirable for this reason. I'd be able/willing to buy from any reputable seller.

UPdate: I think [this one](https://www.etsy.com/listing/269773229/xl-extra-large-7-glass-vaginal-or-anal?ref=shop_home_active_39&fro

It doesn't matter if it turned you on, or it just generally made you feel good about yourself; what was it? A little context would be nice: gender, age, location, why...

For my part, several times over the years lady friends have told my wife that they really wanted a clone of me. I'm a man (40), and it always made me feel great. It wasn't always in a sexual context and never failed to make me feel like king of the world.

EDIT: Bonus question - I'm willing to make the argument that a compliment is often the first tiny step toward sex. Not in every case of course, but in many cases it starts to set a foundation that can certainly lead in that direction. What say you?

Background: Total BDSM noob here. My wife (20yrs) and I are swingers. We are currently getting to know a couple and I've discovered that the Lady of the that couple is getting into BDSM with her SO. After discovering that I've wanted to explore my Dom side more, Lady said she'd be happy to do so with me. After being married for so long and having amazing sex, it just hasn't made sense to modify the dynamic between my wife and I. For the sake of the question, let's assume that my wife and the other husband is perfectly on board with this.

The question: (Title) How does the process work for negotiating a power dynamic for casual encounters?

My thoughts: It's pretty much as s

The wife and I were chatting last night and this topic came up. Specifically, how it is incumbent upon men in the lifestyle to make sure that he takes good care of his new partner.

In our case, we have found that the male half of a new couple we're playing with wouldn't be known for his stamina. He doesn't last terribly long, although he can go for multiple rounds and makes good use of his other tools. That said, it's not quite like the hours of sex that we normally have. He has mentioned that he wouldn't care if I were to continue on with a long session (which may be suspect), but it occurred to my wife and I that if his wife isn't used to having sex for an hour or two, particularly wi

Well, this is a prime example. I doubt it will end well. Don't make this mistake....

EDIT: Does anyone else have stories (good or bad) that they're willing to share?

I suppose I could use a little advice, and maybe a little perspective as well. I don't need answers to all these questions, just tossing out some thought-candy:

Following a conversation I had this weekend with my wife, it dawned on me that I might be a little bit of an odd-ball. While I know that women would definitely prefer a man who leaps from his clothes with a raging hard-on and an eat-you-up grin (because this is definitely subconscious boost to her ego), I'm just not one who falls into that category. I'm down with the grin, but even with my own wife, it can take a little time for me to get the motor running. I need the foreplay as much as she does, even with a sufficient amount o

Hey, you freaky swingers! Our next date isn't until next weekend, but I'm always curious to hear what other's are up to. Anybody have any fun planned for the weekend? Any goals you plan to meet?

I'm not looking for advice here, just commiserating and giving a little advice we (re)learned last night. Several of the glorious podcasters in the sidebar ----> have advice and experiences in one (or more) of their shows. I didn't follow it.

TLDR: Talk about this potential in advance and make a plan for tackling it and/or signals that it is occuring.

I had 'insurance,' so I elected not to take my own advice above. I thought it'd be a fail safe, but I was wrong. I thought maybe if I put it out of my head that it wouldn't happen. Well, darn. It did. Not so much stage fright, or performance anxiety, but was just stuck in my own head for some reason and, as such, nature didn't t

Just a positive post since it's so often we end up problem solving. Here's a ray of sunshine:

I recently started a treatment with Viagra (hopefully temporary) because of some mild ED that we hope diet and exercise will fix. Anyway, we finished with the samples this weekend and we were talking about the results, pro's-con's, etc... Primarily it was me talking about how I felt about it, and how the side-effects were tolerable and so forth. I did want her input though, so I asked, "Do you find that they are a benefit for your experience?"

I was really seeking a yes/no answer but realized after the fact that it was pretty open ended. She didn't hesitate much when she said, "Yes. I like t

So it's been over 10 years since we've had a play-date. We met a beautiful couple who are local to us and hit if off pretty well on the first date. We're compatible in that we want the same things out of the lifestyle and don't get to play very often given kids and so forth. The wife and I were very nervous so we're happy that we specifically setup that first dinner such that we couldn't play afterwards (had to pick up kids).

We decided we wanted to play with them and offered a few dates, with this weekend being one of them. We advertised right out of the gate that this weekend might be sketchy because it may be 'that time' for my wife. Is it normal to be up front about that?

Yester

Mine sure has. When I was in my teens I had to think of anything at all except what I was doing during sex. Mostly this was to avoid early ejaculation. I also had to avoid sexual thoughts throughout the day or I'd probably pop a boner. I couldn't image being really well endowed at that stage of my life. It'd be impossible to hide!!

Nowadays, it's quite the opposite. Participating in this forum (and similar) helps me to think about sex frequently enough that my libido stays high enough to match my wife's. It keep my interest if you will. Those rare times that I do pop a boner mid-afternoon I want to stand up and give a victory cry, "Woohoo!!" lol

Further, the closer I've gotten to

Having known that my wife liked the 50 shades of grey series, and hearing a few comments she made before (and since) reading them, I prompted my wife last night as we were about to make love, "You know, I get the impression sometimes that you'd like getting all 50 shades of grey in the bedroom..."

She replied, "Maybe 20 shades of grey...that'd be nice."

I 'mmmm'ed in response and then there was less talking. ;)

Problem is, I have NO CLUE what the 50 shades of grey are except that it has something to do with BDSM. What did she mean by her comment?

Well, I think it's that time. I know I have high cholesterol and I know that it can have a progressive effect on erectile function (EF). I think I'm starting to see those effects. Decrease in general hardness, occasional inability to perform, intercourse without full erection, etc... I'm struggling a little though because a few years ago I had my lipid profile done just for a physical. EF was tip-top for my age. The statins (Lipitor) I started taking seemed to have a negative effect on EF though and seemed to cause some of the symptoms above. I stopped taking them and it went away, I started taking them again and it came back. I should have talked to the Dr but, instead, just stopped