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smallmindedfool

pre diagnosis life choices

I am currently finding it very difficult to get over some choices I have made, which with the full facts(being aware of my condition)so to speak I genuinely dont believe I would have done I can't change any of them, but I feel incredible amounts of guilt for making them. for those involved, its almost like an unintentional bait and switch.

Anyone else have any experience they wish to share, its quite the burden and learning to cope with them is going to have to become a priority for me

Posted May 16, 2017, 5:14 PM UTC

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andyc225•

I'm not an angel by any means. I've made terrible choices in the past and I know I can't take them back. If I'd been fully aware of my condition when I was younger perhaps things might've been different, but like I said, I can't change it now so there's no point in worrying about it.

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jdeeth•

Biggest mistake: trying to fit in by drinking. Alcohol cost me an extra year of college, a point of my GPA, and the love of my life who I am still obsessed with. 32 years sober is little consolation.

Second biggest mistake: First marriage. Cost me my 30s, a bankruptcy, a couple nights in jail and a career promotion. Ranked #2 only because it wouldn't have happened without #1.

Diagnosis seven years ago in my mid 40s.

I often ask my shrink for normal pills and a time machine.

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GoldenBoyBE•

I did many things in my life that I regret many of which I had control of and many of which I didn't have control of. It mainly has to do with the impulsiveness from my ADHD. I did things that I know I shouldn't do and instantly regret yet they still happen. I learned to live with it, it's not my fault. I do try my best to not do it but I forgive myself as soon as it happens.

"Move on with life, look at the future and not at the past"

That's the advice I'll give you, I know from personal experience that it's not easy. Some things kept coming up and ruined entire days. It went over by itself for me, I just had to give it enough time. And I guess this is the same for most people.

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Rhino_Kneel•

Even though I was actually diagnosed at a young age, it wasn't till I was an adult where the resources and knowledge about it came. Even now, reading experiences of others on this subreddit makes me think of things I went through that I didn't realize was connected in some way. Of course, I too wish I could have known about these strengths and weaknesses growing up. I sadly look at my younger self as naive, even though I may not have had much of a way of understanding it...

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