Just ranting.
It fucking annoys me when I tell someone I’m depressed and they say “why.” Like, when someone tells you they have the fucking flu do you ask why? How are people so dumb about mental illness?
I have people who say “yeah, I was depressed before,” and I’m like “what did you do” and they say it just went away. Seriously? You just woke up and it was fucking gone? Poof?
Everyone always has their golden fix for me too. My mom tells me to drink lemon water. My dad says “stop worrying so much.” My coworker says “meditate.” Exercise. Volunteer. Quit your job and go do what you love (which is what, exactly?).
I try so, so, so hard to not be depressed. But if I’m not pushing myself 120% to stop it, it comes back, and I’m back to square one. And I can’t, I just can’t keep doing it. It’s just like pushing a rock up a mountain with no peak.
My favorite are the people who say “you need to let go. Just let go of the past.” These are the people that post dumbass quotes on Facebook and Instagram who haven’t experienced a day of depression in their lives. Let go of WHAT? What does that even fucking mean? I ask these people to go into detail, and they don’t. They act like a fucking monk, and just say, “You just have to let go.”
All of those people can go fuck themselves.
Posted Jan 23, 2018, 12:50 AM UTC
Sometimes the people asking why they are just trying to understand and help. I don’t get offended when people ask me why (it depends on the tone of course) but at least they’re showing interest and care. People who haven’t dealt with depression don’t understand it, so they ask questions to try to understand.
Then in your post you got mad about people’s techniques for dealing with their pain. For different people, different things help them. If posting dumb Facebook quotes makes them happy then I’m all for it. People should do what makes them happy. It’s not fair of you to say that they haven’t felt depression. People feel it in different ways, and they do different things to heal themselves. Just being their techniques doesn’t work for you personally that doesn’t take away from their experience.
You sounds overall very angry and aggressive. I imagine this stems from feeling misunderstood. When people are suggesting things they’re trying to help. The volunteering, meditating and exercising are scientifically proven to ease depressive symptoms. But everyone needs to find their own thing that makes them happy.
What makes you happy?
Posting aggressive comments tearing others experiences down wont make you happy. If anything that just perpetuates the negative feelings. I’m not trying to be condescending, I’m just trying to shed light.
Maybe when they say let go, they mean the aggressive thoughts, the past, the anger, the hate, and the pain. Instead of repeating to yourself this angry inner dialogue, try to be kind to yourself. Instead of saying “I’m a fuck up, no one will ever understand,” say to yourself “these horrible things have happened to me and I have every right to be sad, things have been tough and I deserve to care about myself.” Then just do things you enjoy.
You can’t find happiness by perpetuating rage.