[LETTER] Boyfriend spoke to SpoiledSpat

So. Llamas. I think I have a JustNo MIL who tries the « I didn’t meeeeeean tooo » bullshit. SO dodged and angrily responded to my multiple requests to address his mom’s fucking baffling behavior. « I want to talk to her in person. » « Texting will just instigate a situation. » Y’all. I need us to work on spine. Stat. I went through the reading list in the sidebar and ordered the one titled « What’s Normal for Adult Children » or sth like that. It should arrive in the next few days. So here’s what SpoiltSpat droned about...

She didn’t MEAN to make us feel bad. She went on to talk about how bad SHE feels for twenty minutes, what she wants, and that she’s happy for us IF we’re happy. She literally added that clause now, twice. The biiiiiitch. BF does not see the nasty innuendo.

What did I expect? Well, nothing. But maybe for BF to stand up for me and for her to stop bitching. This is the woman who said to me two months PP with DD that she and her husband SUFFERED not seeing DD. Record scratch, SAY WHA. Turns out SpoiltSpat lost a baby to stillbirth at five months. Does that explain her total batshit reaction? Sorta. But it doesn’t excuse it. Like, puzzle piece in place, but crazy still abides. She keeps insisting DD is the first girl in the family, that’s just not true. SO’s cousin has a girl baby about a year older than DD.

They say DD like every week (despite my misgivings, because she bent DD’s pinky backwards at two days old turning her cuff, and almost fell ON her when SO was holding DD on a bench). And the weird possessive factor, combined with her shuffling me indoors and away from others when I tried to breastfeed. My naked shoulders procured OH MY gasps and tut-tutting.

So I am in a funk but maybe thinking of getting on my own. SO has been disrespectful and gaslighting since the beginning, I’m afraid it will get worse if I leave. And that I will miss SO despite the crazy, mean shit he’s pulled. Y’all. She’s SUFFERING tho 🙄😐