Why do people condemn suicide as selfish when society shows no concern for your happiness or even whether any of your basic needs (food,shelter) are met?

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People constantly spew "The world owes you nothing" if you complain too much, even my therapist said that. Said that once your an adult, it's your responsibility if your life sucks. She may be an ass, but that's pretty much the same mindset that a lot of people have.

It's no secret that most people hate working and for people on this sub, it makes as suicidal. But we know that it's either that or be homeless. Even if you comply with the wage-slave system, you could end up losing everything one day and guess what, it's most likely that no one would give a shit about you. No one would

But don't even think about suicide. Don't think about the only logical way to escape I life saddled with responsibilities. They pontificate ''It's selfishness", "The coward's way out", "Not acceptable under any circumstance", "It'll hurt your family".

Seems like cognitive dissonance. How can society let someone starve and be exposed to the harsh elements yet condemn exiting existence? What kind of a mad world is this?

Posted Mar 26, 2018, 10:11 AM UTC

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6138•

This is very true, I had never really thought of it in these terms. People do agree with me that life is hard, life is tough, but they always end that by saying "But, well, we have no choice, you just have to deal with it as best as you can". Well, no, actually, we do have a choice, people just pretend that we don't...

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

I'd say it's more that they "disregard" that there's a choice, rather than "pretend" that there isn't one.

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6138•

I would mostly agree, but I think a lot of them genuinely don't even acknowledge that it is a choice.

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

I'd say they "aren't aware", rather than "not acknowledging".

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ArtistInStarving•

They somehow think that they're dignified in ignoring the choice. Like there's a certain honor or nobility in not doing so.

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Dogzilla99•

Excellent point. Goes along with all the other arbitrary rules and hypocrisies of this world. Makes me think of a friend i just lost. He was not terminally ill. He chose not to play the game. I will always respect his decision, as our perceptions were very similiar. Still miss him and my world will always be lonlier. They took SS, but this place is really only place left i cay say things like this. For that im grateful. Censorship sucks, but looks like we have some good members, and good posts like these in TTG.

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VioletUV•

The system this world has is broken. They say it's for us but it only truly benefits certain folks and we're not included. Those people have the worst kind of selfishness and they're able to get away with it and it is not fair. We average folks try to be selfish to decide on how our lives go and people around think we're horrible because they don't get something out of it. It's all bullshit.

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lil_ambi_vert•

I think whoever doesn't want to leave this prison is crazy. We're toast as soon as we're born.

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Not really people with good genetics have it pretty good.

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Lookismer•

They are more likely to have it better than everyone else, but no one is fully immune to tragedy, & even the best lives contain suffering & eventually, death.

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True true, but it's tolerable.

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illusions_in_life•

It isn’t your place to declare what is tolerable for another. The right to choose isn’t based on the size of your wallet.

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lil_ambi_vert•

Within the boundaries of a prison status.

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Narco105•

Not true. I'm very gifted genetically but my mental problems have literally ruined me

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zoomalianMy body, My choice. Right, lads?•

I agree with you.

Another point about the ''selfish'' argument that people usually don't address is, ''why is it inherently bad to be selfish?''.

Most actions can be boiled down to what they call ''selfishness'', so why is it such a big deal if someone is being ''selfish''. Especially when it's such a personal matter, like what to do with one's own life?

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4169726f6e•

why is it inherently bad to be selfish

It usually goes like this: If the other person is selfish, it will be harder for me to use them and make my life better, therefore I need them to not be selfish so I can benefit myself.

Most people probably don't realize it but this is how things are. I can't find any other rational reason why being selfish should be negative.

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

If the other person is selfish, it will be harder for me to use them and make my life better, therefore I need them to not be selfish so I can benefit myself.

"I need them to comply with me so that my selfishness wins."

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

Why is your username just a bunch of numbers? Are you a bot?

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

Yep... we all behave selfishly; it's hypocritical to denounce it.

I'm embracing my selfishness... fuck 'em.

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Actually, denouncing selfishness is perfectly in line with being selfish, so long as you are denouncing it in others.

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Crystal_Charmer•

When we fully understand that 99% of the time people say one thing but mean another it won't surprise you as much. All that is projection, none of that took some deep philosophical examination on their part, just repetition of information no authenticity. Most people operate on their animal instincts, and subconscious programming, and don't know it, just playing out a role, over and over.

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DamnScalper•

Yep. Can't wait to see these bootsrappers complain when they lose they jobs to: automation, immigration, off shoring, etc. The way I see it, crapilism is in it's final stage, and it's dying on it's feet.

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Onearmplanche•

I am very curious what an AI that can continual make itself smarter will think of humanity. Will it label us as obsolete. Will it make evreyone take mandatory happy pills and so on.

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malariadandelion•

It'd either an hero or repurpose our matter as raw materials for making more processors.

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

What's a "boots-rapper"?

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Vegrau•

They are scared and they're selfish to ask people to live on for their reasons. They dont dare to do it. Thats why they stopped others in hope it will quell that desire inside them. Finding the chains to bind themselves onto this world. They live trudging on like a wounded animal.

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Jkid•
  1. They say the world owes you nothing, but they practically say with words and expectations that owe them to follow The Lifescript.

  2. They objectify people struggling as a reality tv show, they don't want to see canceled.

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Metaright•
  1. They objectify people struggling as a reality tv show, they don't want to see canceled.

I've occasionally wondered if my loved ones forget that I'm suffering once I'm not in their immediate vicinity. Perhaps, sometimes, we are just programs to be viewed at others' leisure.

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

I've occasionally wondered if my loved ones forget that I'm suffering once I'm not in their immediate vicinity.

If you study them you'll come to see that, yes, they do completely forget that you're suffering the moment they can't see your face any longer.

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Smillasensesnow•

I think it’s leftover sentiments from JudeoChristian thought.

The Stoics allowed suicide, and viewed it as a rational way out.

Blame religion.

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Smillasensesnow•

Islam allows it in certain variations, as do Buddists.

Diff between spiritual belief and established religion; spiritual belief is by definition individualistic but this is semantics I guess.

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femmejeanOP•

Islam allows it? I thought a passage said (not religious or Islamic) that "whomever kill himself with a weapon, Allah shall torture him with that same weapon on the day of judgement".

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Smillasensesnow•

I said in “certain variations”.

Do Islamic suicide bombers believe in Allah? Yes?

Certain sects of “Christianity” think it’s ok to kill blacks.

Obviously these beliefs differ from what the Jesus or Allah intended for their followers but it’s still religion.

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

The Buddhists denounce it completely as far as my research has proven.

What have you seen that says they make exceptions?

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

You defined "spiritual belief", but not 'established religion'.

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

You mean, "religion", don't you?

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

How much do you know about the Stoics, Smilla?

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Depressiosaurus•

Also, why do they give us vaccines for free, but no vitamins?

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

Vitamins don't stop the proliferation of disease.

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poisontongue•

Society is full of manipulative shiiiiite.

Do not have control. Spin in your slot quietly until you must be replaced.

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[deleted]•

Death - Suicide Machine

Controlling their lives Deciding when and how they will die A victim of someone else's choice The ones who suffer have no voice Manipulating destiny When it comes to living, no one seems to care But when it comes to wanting out Those with power, will be there Prolong the pain How long will it last? Suicide machine A request to die with dignity Is that too much to ask? Suicide machine How easy it is to deny the pain Of someone else's suffering Robbed of natural abilities In death they now seek tranquility In a confused state of mind Extending agony, they must be blind Manipulating destiny When it comes to living, no one seems to care But when it comes to wanting out Those with power, will be there Prolong the pain How long will it last? Suicide machine A request to die with dignity Is that too much to ask? Suicide machine

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audiomedium•

Such an important band

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borndead114•

Such a great band

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[deleted]•

Best death metal band and album of all time imho

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velvetrum•

No one really cares, it's true. It's so much easier to tell someone to stay alive and then leave them to that monumental task, even if that person has no job, health issues, no relationships, mental illness, etc. It's so easy to tell someone to live while ignoring that they do not have the tools/ability to do so. You can pat yourself on the back for being a good person and go on your merry way while the person you told to STAY ALIVE AT ALL COSTS is like ???

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

Hi, Femme :-)

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fuckingssthrowaway•

My therapist says "power through the negative thoughts". I eventually coaxed out of him the fact that growing up he had no choice but to persevere. Along the lines of the job it's "everyone has to go through it, people everyday wake up not wanting to go to work, but do so anyway". He always goes on about "you had a job before, you can get one again."

it's most likely that no one would give a shit about you. No one would

No one gives a shit about me anyway, except maybe family and the people in this subreddit.

the coward's way out

Yep, my friend Bill (name changed) basically said this. He's thought of killing himself, but that's what stops him. Though he used the phrase "easy way out".

What really grinds my gears is if people say they're suicidal because they've failed socially, or have not had a relationship, or repel the opposite sex, the response is "No one owes you a relationship". I've never seen anyone who's not a troll imply they deserve a relationship. It's fucking depressing because it's this thing that everyone seems to learn and experience at an early age, or they're able get one night stands / dates / attention constantly, yet there are those that are treated like radioactive goo or something.

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Ihatemyself2345•

isn't it selfish to force me to stay alive and suffer so you don't have to deal with the loss of me?

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not_your_avg_grinch90% pro-dignity : 100% pro-choice : 10% pro-life•

Is it logical to expect the 'world' to show consistency in its model of the universe when its modus operandi is to maintain its own self-interests‽, Femme

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ugly-as-fuck•

Don't give a f*ck about what the society thinks

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femmejeanOP•

You're right, thanks ;)

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xmx900•

Because 90% of the population are hypocrites.

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