Men of Reddit, what does your girlfriend/wife do that pisses you off?
Posted May 5, 2018, 1:28 AM UTC
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Asks me questions machine-gun style. I can't begin to answer one before she asks me 12 more.
That and constantly trying to tell me how and where to park. It's like I'm humanly incapable of parking a car unless she's in it to pick out the spot.
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I consider these two things a very bad sign in a relationship: A woman who thinks she should tell you how to drive and a woman who thinks she should tell you how to park. Both are signs the woman is an over-controlling asshole who is contemptuous of your abilities.
I was in a car with a guy who was trying to merge onto a freeway. Meanwhile his gf in the back is shouting instructions; "Now ..now ..go now ...stop! Someone is coming! Look out . speed up....don't go so slow ! Slow down! Brake!
I turned around and told her politely it was actually dangerous to distract a driver while he's attempting to merge and could she please be quiet because she was endangering us all. She was stunned into silence.
And the guy? He was a quiet, henpecked guy who was a fine driver and was able to merge successfully once she shut up and stopped bugging him.
The worst thing was, the girl herself was actually a bit thick - she was one of my workmates and I knew her quite well. It's not that she was some super-capable person dealing with an idiotic man; she was actually less capable than the average person but by over-controlling her guy it made her feel clever because she had convinced herself he was useless without her - even at driving. (And SHE didn't have a license!)
The guy was just too nice (and desperate - he was a single father and absolutely desperate to find a woman) to call her out on it so I did it for him, politely - not because I'm particularly nice but because frankly she was endangering everyone in the car with her idiocy.
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Nothing. My wife is absolutely fucking perfect. Actually, when she refuses to accept responsibility. That pisses me off. It’s like she plays six degrees of Kevin bacon with finding a way to blame me for something. Then she also is willing to take our marriage to world war 3 and go totally nuclear over any disagreement. I have to be the voice of calm and reason. She is unable to deescalate any situation no matter how in the wrong or right she is. So after being together for 8 years I am at a point I don’t fight with her about anything unless it’s super important to me. She is an empath and suffers from depression. So if I respond saying one thing but my tone says another she will disregard what I say and go with what she thinks my tone says. Even if it’s the complete opposite of the words that come out of my fucking mouth. Ok end rant. Sorry I didn’t even know all that was in there.
Edit: spelling
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If she is an empath she has learned a long time ago that words mean far less than tone, body language, or context but you picking your battles is a great way to offset this constant paranoia she deals with every day. Source: I never listen to my husbands words over tone either.
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If I make a move and she's not in the mood and not feeling it that's completely cool with me. I understand. But if I have one bad day and turn her down because I'm not feeling it one night there is all of a sudden some huge problem.
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Call me out on my bullshit.
I love her for it.
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She doesn't seem interested in learning new things. Be it a hobby or just general knowledge.
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What doesn't she do? Amiright?
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I'm reading these comments and it's making me really sad
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Why?
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I'm the wife.
I head in to work when it works for me. It seems to really irritate him that I can sleep in if I really want to.
Also I'm not always down to suddenly do things. Like go to the movies or his parents' place which I only learned was happening the day of.
As you can tell, the last one also pisses me off. The first one I understand. His work sucks, can't be easy to daily see someone with a more flexible job.
Other things might piss him off but if they do he keeps it to himself.
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Are you me?
Glad to see I'm not the only wife crashing this thread, but yes I definitely feel resentment over having a flexible schedule while he has his set-in-stone hours. Maybe a husband on the other side can crash this chain and weigh in.
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They should! Any insight is good. I don't want this to be a thing. And I'm also not about to forgo the benefits I get with my work. But if there's any way to help with the situation I'm all ears.
The best I've found so far is if I get up before or when he does, even if I don't have to go to work. He seems almost ecstatic when I do that. But I mean the flexible schedule is a great benefit and I don't always want to wake up earlier than I have to.
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I'm working on that as well (it's hard, because many night's I'm working hours after he gets out). But it feels nice when I wake up and get started earlier than I have to, helps keep the household in balance, but fuck if some days I just want another 30 minutes of sleep (or 2 hours, don't judge me).
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hehe exactly. Today I was up at 6 cause insomnia seems to be back. Made my SO's day it seems.
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"give me some money"
Ok...how much?
"Just give me some money."
Alright, but how much?
Glaring at me now.
"Seriously, how much?"
Glaring intensifies.
"For god's sake how much? How much? $10? $100 ??? How much do you need????"
Silence and more glaring.
Ok here's $10
"That's not enough!"
She has this thing about money. She hates asking for it, but if she DOES ask, then she absolutely refuses to put a number on it... I'm not sure why. I know her family was very poor when she was younger...there were times she went without food so her brother could have something to eat...which is part of the reason she's so short, she was underfed. I guess putting a number on the amount seems too much like begging to her.
Still, how the hell am I supposed to know how much money to give her? Apparently I'm supposed to guess. The first time we went through this I was gobsmacked. These days I am used to it and try figure out what she is planning to do...is she taking the kids? Did she get dressed up? Is it the weekend? Are we low on food?
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[bzzzz]
Hey
[bzzzz]
Are you going to the store after work?
[bzzzz]
We need milk
[bzzzz]
And yogurt
[bzzzz]
Get the Okyos
[bzzzz]
The honey kind
[bzzzz]
Also garlic
"Hey dude you're blowing up, you need to get that?"
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Not exist.
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She turns the light off in a room I am still sitting in.
Wife~Loveofmylife, I’m sitting in the g-damn room. If I wanted the light guy off, I’d turn it off.
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Nothing. We get along surprisingly well. At most, she annoys me a tiny bit once in a while, but even that is rare.
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Load the dishwasher incorrectly.
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Not a man but married to one: he hates it when I am "acting crazy" or "making a big deal out of nothing".
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Or try to start a conversation about something important when he is lying in bed and checking his alarm clock before going to bed.
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Start arguments for no reason.
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Lack of existence
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For the love of God just tell me what you want to eat
But I’m not that hungry
eats all of my food
At a park with my fiancee at the time. I decided to go to the shop because I'm hungry.
"I'm going to the shop to buy something to eat, what do you want?"
"Just get me the same as you" she says.
Well this ain't my first rodeo and I've been tricked before. So I refuse.
"No, tell me what you want"
"I'll have what you have"
"Please tell me what you want"
"Just get me the same as you!"
So off I go to the shop. I get a can of drink, a bag of chips and a chocolate bar. I get them for her too. I bring back the food.
"...what is this?" she asks
"Food."
"this isn't food!"
"Well, I'm eating it." and I start to eat.
Off she storms to the shop to buy some "food"; whatever that may be.