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LastApprentice9

Need advice

So a couple days ago I tried to M and just focus on the moment, without porn/fantasy. In the middle of my fap session my dick just went limp and I couldn't finish. I already restarted my streak, but does this count as a relapse? Also, I'm just scared. I worry about never being able to be with a woman. Ever girl I see is just a missed opportunity. I'm constantly thinking about this and how much of a failure I am. I have no passion for life and It feels like I've gone asexual. People Are suppose to enjoy kissing, but I felt nothing. I couldn't even get it up, with my now ex, girlfriend. This keeps me up at night. Does it get better?

Posted Jun 2, 2018, 4:52 AM UTC

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pw1016•

It’s not a relapse if you didn’t look at porn, which it sounds like you didn’t. I would only encourage you to masturbate without porn if you are really horny and not just doing it out of habit or out of boredom. Don’t beat yourself up. Once you abstain for a while you will start to be able to get aroused around real women a lot more easily and just the touch of a woman will make you go crazy. Hang in there

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Painismyfriend28 days•

How often did you fap and watched porn before you took up nofap and/or pornfree challenge? Were you into extreme porn? I am asking because the more extreme porn one watches, the more he usually masturbates. When this is the case, you can feel asexual because of overstimulation.

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LastApprentice9OP1 day•

Yep, the porn was pretty extreme for a while... I immediately flat lined when I started doing nofap/porn.

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Painismyfriend28 days•

It is better to go pornfree first if PMO reboot is difficult. You can masturbate for the first few months and avoid porn or any sexual stimulation at any cost. Once you have been porn free for few months, you can take up the nofap challenge as well if that is your ultimate goal.

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cun2nn2n117 days•

I does get better but it can take time, because you are rewiring your brain. Look good : -)

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