Yeah the title could use some work.
I thought we could try something new today. It's an idea that's been floated before, by a few people.
Tell us of a recent victory or two, dating related or not. It doesn't matter how big or small. We just want the focus to be on the positive for this thread and thos day.
Let's hear about those victories!
Posted Aug 16, 2018, 12:30 PM UTC
I was approached to become a spin instructor at my gym. Apparently a few people nominated me to management and they immediately thought it was a good idea. While I am a little overwhelmed thinking about it, I am also super proud that people like me enough, and find me fun and motivating enough, to make this happen.
Maybe it will be something I seriously look into as a resolution for 2019...
What an honor! I would be super stoked by that! Congrats, Sweetie!
show no mercy.. spin these fools into the ground!
always enjoy teaching.. also free reign to make them regret taking one of my classes aka beat them up in a good way
free reign
Just an FYI: it's free rein. As in to loosen the hold on the reins of a horse to permit it to go where it chooses.
This and peaked vs piqued are a couple which always stand out to me. Cheers.
Downvoted? I mean - I was as polite as I could be, but the only way to fix common errors is to gently point them out when you see them, right?
Well first, you shouldn’t correct a Pope. ;-)
Second, maybe the Pope DID mean free reign! Like Monarchy Anarchy.
Also the free reign/free rein homonym bothers me too. I thought you were nice about it, I upvoted you!
Congrats Hera. I'd be super proud if someone saw the necessary qualities in me for teaching a fitness class, especially a spin class. Do it, do it!
Well done! If people nominated you, that says a lot.
Oooooh you should do it! That's awesome that you were nominated by others!
Today our cat was as cuddly to me as she is to my girlfriend.
Take that, bitch. She's mine now.
This made me laugh, so have an upvote!
I am 7 days NC with my ex. Our relationship did not make me happy, but I didn’t have the self worth to leave. After months of watching him struggle to pretend to like me, I walked away. He’s now completely blocked on all social media, no texts, no emails. It’s sad but also feels amazing to finally put my needs ahead of a man!
Good for you! I was in a very similar situation and it’s so hard, but so freeing. Keep focusing on what makes you feel good and good about yourself. :)
Stay strong friend. I had a super similar experience except we both did love each other, otherwise exactly the same as yours. It was tough as I'm sure you well know!
I actually asked someone out. This is a miracle.
Never mind she said no. Which was weird because two of my female friend saw us together and said it was super obvious she was into me.
Good for you! Even better that you can shake the "no" off.
Yeah, this is a big deal! People take this for granted sometimes.
Well, let's see. I got a cat, did a DTR, and was recognized at our division meeting for going above and beyond for a customer.
So I'm feeling like a badass.
I got a cat
So one could say you have all the pussy a man needs? 😂
Probably gonna be down-voted into oblivion for the crude remark. C'est la vie!
So one could say you have all the pussy a man needs? 😂
I mean, that was the DTR providing that part... 😏
You don't have to lie to me big guy... It's ok if you got the cat cause something was missing in your life 😬
Crude joking aside, I am gonna miss my cats. She's getting em in the divorce and that kinda sucks, but we both agree the kids should have pets at both houses.
Yeah - just like my ex-wife and I talked about my son's desire to live with me (and agreement that the kids should have their siblings so it would be all or none switching primary residence) - I agree completely about pets.
My youngest has always had stuff at both houses, toys, clothes, etc - but this is the first pet I've personally owned since my dog died 15 years ago. It's time.
Wait, you cant just say:
did a DTR
and then not tell us what happened?!?!?
Right?!?
and then not tell us what happened?!?!?
Watch me... 😉
"So Happy It's Thursday" has an unfortunate acronym otherwise I'd suggest that. :-D
Let's see . . . I survived the latest round of layoffs at work. That was pretty awesome. I lost a few friends which was not awesome, but so far all have either gotten jobs or I've written them recommendations and they all have interviews. Plus my boss is continuing to work on getting me my raise I've earned.
"So Happy It's Thursday" has an unfortunate acronym otherwise I'd suggest that. :-D
C'mon... That perfect!
OMG! It is perfect!!! We may have to name it that!
*bows *
I don't disagree. That's why I slipped it in there the way I did. It's now everyone's minds - language pattern programming ftw.
That's why I slipped it in there
That's what she said? 😂
That's why I slipped it in there
That's what she said? 😂
Didn't realize you were so into pegging...
Had a great date number 4 last night and we are planning on cooking together on Sunday. I'm below 200 lbs. for the first time in 7 years, and I finally bought a real loveseat to finish furnishing the living room in my apartment. This is the most positive my life has been since my marriage started going south about two years ago. It feels so good to have things to look forward to again.
This feels good to read. You are exactly where I want to be a year from now.
I'm both surprised and glad that I provide a good example to others out there. I've just been trying to make baby steps towards a more positive life. This marks the first good week I've had since getting divorced last winter. It's a grind, but it does actually get better over time. Good luck out there!
Started a new adventure, it's called operation smoke show. Getting back into cardio, bodyweight workouts, climbing routinely, eating what I'm supposed to, going to the optometrist to get contacts, dentist for cleaning, stretches to fix my posture and finally getting a physical for any bads I might not know about. I'm hoping by my birthday, I'll be a hot tamale.
The hottest tamale!
I didn't crave carbs today
I feel you on this! When I stopped dreaming about pita chips and cupcakes I knew I was making major changes.
Was seeing a dude who was leaving me completely confused on what was going on, and instead of just allowing it to continue (and drive me bonkers internally) I spoke up had that conversation.
It wasn't the exact answer I wanted, but the clarity is worth it! I'm celebrating this, because I'm still working on being very forward with communication and what I need/want.
I've just had that situation- wasn't sure what was going on so instead of trying to be a "cool girl" I just brought it up. We're meeting up for dinner tonight and will discuss more- hopefully it goes well, but I'm glad I advocated for myself and whatever happens, I'm grateful for the time spent and will learn from it and move onward.
It's hard being vulnerable- way to go!
Yes! I can be vulnerable in so many ways, but for some reason in relationships I tend to shy away from it. Probably due to rejection. But, it is a good thing bc either way sucks (ambiguity and rejection)
I deadlifted all the weights I own yesterday, 337 1/2lbs. I now need to get another 45 plate. I hiked to the top of a mountain on sunday, Mt Rearguard. It's not a technical climb but very rugged terrain. Elevation 12,200ft. Four people from my hiking group were supposed to go as that's all that will fit in my old landcruiser, only one showed up, a woman that I haven't met before. The road to the trailhead is very rough and requires a reasonably well built 4x4. The woman I met has a cheerful positive attitude, interesting conversationalist, and is a strong hiker; she would make a great hiking buddy. (Waaaay out of my league for romance. lol) I made a new and interesting friend. I made some progress on a challenging book (poem really) I've been reading: Lucretius- Nature of Things.
Why is she way out of your league? Seems pretty defeatist to me.
Oh I don't know, wealthy upper middle class doctor who has obviously spent a lot of money on plastic surgery and looks like a model. Do you think I have a shot? lol
Hell yes. I consider elective plastic surgery a sign of low self-confidence. Go get 'em tiger!
(Please note that I personally think elective plastic surgery is a sign of low self confidence and not that it is 100% true for all cases. I am only going off my friends who have done it as well as what pop culture has taught me. Medically necessary plastic surgery is a totally different topic.)
Elective plastic surgery is a realistic view of who she's gunning for not her level of confidence. Women aim higher in status, education and income. Men aim for youth, health, and fertility. If, as a doctor, she's going to land a man with higher status, education, and income she's going to have to look more youthful, healthy and fertile than other women. She's done a fantastic job. She's a psychiatrist/MD for what it's worth and aware of the evolutionary psychological dynamics of sex and dating.
Edit: My previous post was supposed to be rhetorical, the obvious answer is: no. lol
I've just now been friendzoned. I thought things were going great after a couple of dates, but it turns out she friendzoned me from the beginning. Feels great!
Anyway, my triumph is that I can now move on from this waste of time and look forward to more of this dating thingy.
That attitude is indeed the triumph! 😃
I have a date with a girl tomorrow night. We have a hell of a lot in common, and actually spoke on the phone last night.
My only concern is she lives over an hour away. The way I see it, even if it doesn't turn romantic, I will gain a new pretty cool friend.
My boss put me in for a raise, my insurance company officially decided the other driver was at fault (he obviously was) and is cutting me a check to cover repairs, and I correctly predicted my Bumble date for Tuesday was going to flake out and therefore didn't get my hopes up! It's all in how you look at it.
I like this idea. We need more positivity - I was going to set up a similar thread myself.
So my contribution, which I posted last week to the checkin thread:
I just wasn't getting out and meeting people, and was collapsing onto the couch after work each day. So I forced myself out to a rock climbing class and - long story short - have a date with the instructor tomorrow. I don't know what will happen but it'll be fun. Why was I staying at home?
Was 33, never wanted to be tied down again.
Dated a bit online, didnt really like many people, what's the point.
Talk to girl, we click...faster than I've ever clicked with anyone in my life, it was electric.
Been together three years now, will be proposing soon enough. Never thought I would ever get married, but here I am.
Also, let me add that she was separated from her terrible husband for less than a month. Just looking to meet people and have fun and didn’t want to be in a relationship either. Things were a bit strange for both of us.
The person I have had my eye on most has a nonsingle friend who has been encouraging me to go for it. I wasn't super bold but I asked her to meet me tomorrow at an outdoor music fest and we are on.
I consider this a triumph because I've been working out a lot, taking care of myself, and trying to eat healthy and cook. Yesterday at work a woman made a joke about another woman's laugh sounding like "Mrs. Doubtfire" and I chortle snorted. She said, "oh look at her laughing, she doesn't even know who Mrs. Doubtfire is". Omg, this lady thought I was a younger millennial. cries tears of joy Dating wise... nothing much is going on.
I disabled my profiles across the board. Had date number 4 on Monday night, number 5 is Friday night and I'm cooking for her. And we also have plans to spend the day together on Saturday.
I don't think she is seeing anyone else, but we haven't talked about being exclusive yet. I disabled my profiles with no expectations of her doing the same yet, I just don't like juggling.
And the only person I was talking to besides her was a lady I hadn't met yet, but was the top of my list to meet... I told her I wanted to give things a chance so I wasn't interested in a date right now. She said she'd still like to be friends since we seem to get along really well. I said sure, but am getting a little hesitant. I am getting the feeling that she really is attracted to something she can't have.
I work in retail, and a woman I'd never seen before visited my store. I found her very attractive. We start talking business, and other life stuff works itself into the conversation. She mentions that she's a massage therapist. I am kind of tightly wound, and in serious need of a massage, and extra single. I'd kind of relegated myself to being alone forever, but I figured that I might never see her again, and that I should take a risk. I ask for her professional information, and she gives me her contact info.
Fast forward a couple of weeks, and I finally work up the courage to contact her about a massage, and mention that I'm interested in getting to know her. She says that's she's not taking on new clients, and what took me so long to ask her out!?
We met for coffee, that turned into a day-long date, and we've been seeing each other once or twice a week! Things are going well!!
Gettt iiiiittt! This makes me happy!