So Happy It's Thursday! (S.H.I.T!)
Tell us about the good things in your life, dating related or not, big or small!
Posted Sep 6, 2018, 12:19 PM UTC
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YOU GUYS I MADE EGGPLANT PARM AND IT DIDN'T SUCK. Progress.
This was attempt #3. I just really like eggplant parm ok.
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Wow, thanks for the invite smh.
jk but for real. Yummmmm.
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To be fair, I said it didn't suck, I didn't say it was good 🤣 But considering that my first attempt was somehow both goopy mush and tough to chew... I'm taking the win. Further attempts are needed before official invites are sent out.
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Yay!!! 👍🏻
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I’m only about 8 hours from Austin, so hit me up next time
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Considering how long it takes me to make it that's actually perfect 🤣
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Sounds yummy!
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Soummy.
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Well ... it's Thursday, and I'm sitting here at my computer with a S.H.I.T.-eating grin after coffee, toast and endorphins for breakfast.
Had my fourth date with my second OLD match (the first went five dates then friendzoned) -- we're both into music, so we had a decent dinner and then went to see a kick-ass zydeco band. She'd never heard zydeco and was a little reticent, but by 10 minutes in she was grinning ear to ear, wide-eyed, loving every note of it, and we ended up dancing away most of the two sets (something that's out of the ordinary for me; I'm usually the one watching others dance). Spent an hour and a half after the show escaping the humidity via the car a/c in a dark corner of the parking lot and acting like 16-year-olds. I haven't has so much fun in ... decades. Literally.
Yeah, OLD is fucked up. Yeah, I was terrified to dip my toe in the OLD waters. But damned if the chemistry isn't out there and findable -- if *I* can find it, you can too. I don't know how long this will last, but I'm going to enjoy every moment of it while it does. Good luck, everyone!
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After being sick for a week, went back to Crossfit yesterday. It was a rough workout, but it feels great to be active again! I’ve been at it for two months (while doing regular lifting for much longer) and I’m already down a pant size and might have to go down from large to medium shirts. I’ve always been pretty muscular, but I’m definitely looking more ripped due to Crossfit (and dieting as well!)
Also, found out that Guillermo Del Toro is speaking at my Alma Mater, so going to try to snag tickets to that!
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Fellow CrossFitter here - glad it’s going so well! And going back after any time off (sick, vacation, etc) is always rough. I’m 6 years in and I’m still surprised how sore I can get 👍🏻
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Thank you so much! And wow, six years! That’s incredible ! I’m looking forward to seeing how far I progress after a year. I can’t imagine what it’s like after six!
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First year progress is the BEST!! All the gains in both strength and new movements! I’ve mostly plateaued so it’s VERY exciting when I even get a small PR 😜
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Best part is buying a new belt cause it's too big! Congrats on the fruit of your labor! 🤘
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I actually did that! Went from a 36 to a 34 belt. The current belt is at the fourth notch out of five!
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I hear ya, went from the largest hole on a 38 belt, to in-between the second and third hole on a 34 belt 😬
Started doing some free-weights to strengthen my shoulder. Decided I want to do a Spartan race next year, and need to work on my upper body a bit. My legs are good endurance wise, but need to work on both my bum shoulder, and increase upper body strength.
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I did a few Spartans across the last few years. They're a lot of fun. Upper body strength gets used a lot and it's where most people fall short. Good luck!
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Dude that’s awesome! Congrats on all the progress and for deciding to do a spartan race! I hope everything goes well with working on your shoulder!
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Good for you! It’s hard going back!
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This sub has been pretty good to me. I’ve made a lot of friends, met one or two. I’m glad I stumbled onto this disaster. Some of you guys are pretty decent.
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You're good people. Kind of a smartass but I suspect you're actually pretty sweet. Thanks for letting me look at you (prefer the face) 😘
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I plead the fifth 😉
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😂😂😂
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Whoa, where was I when your penis was on display??
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😂 I have to agree with the FDA on this matter.
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I saw it and immediately thought of you. Was about to slide into your DMs😏
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This week has been one for the books!
*I got accepted back to my college of choice for the coming spring semester.
*Took a garnishment to court and it was lifted.
*Saturday I will celebrate four years of sobriety.
My gym is great. My new town is great. My dog is amazing. My bills will get paid. #rosecoloredglassesdontcare
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Good job!
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Congratulations! So much good news
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Went on a date with an old flame. I'd describe the relationship we'd had as: she was a narcissist, I was a doormat, it was miserable.
She extended the offer, sounded contrite, I figured it might be fun. In summary, she hasn't changed, but I have, and it was kind of fun seeing her try the old tricks and me dodging them matrix-style. A strange sort of confidence booster. Got a date with someone far more pleasant tonight, looking forward to it.
I've been renting since my divorce - because money - and have just moved into a lovely new place. Landlord loves me and has said they want me to stay as long as possible. Perfect.
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It is sometimes fun to see how far you’ve progressed past their bullshit! Good for you!
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Thanks! It's a bit childish ... but oddly fun.
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I realized today I’ve ghosted a lot of people - platonic friends who tried to get close to me. I’ve done this for the past decade. I didn’t even realize I did this until heading into work this morning. I am not sure how to express how I feel about this. If I step outside myself, it’s awful what I did. People were nice, open and kind. And I shut down because of one (or a series of small) slight(s). But I also recognize that I’ve hated being emotionally open and have simply not been in touch with them for years (stemming from neglected childhood and then mostly neglected marriage). Me not actively dating now is giving me insight into how cruel I’ve been, even if it has been unintentionally.
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Can't change what has happened, but today is a new day to change tomorrow.
Sorry to hear you are dealing with all that. Hang in there!
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Thank you 😊
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Well, it's been a terrifying week, but I'm getting my feet back under me so I'm proud of that. My ex-husband is cycling out of control on his mental illness again and has been threatening to visit me at home without my permission and do other things that are clear manipulation and psychological abuse. Thankfully all the threats were over text so I have a record. I talked to the police and my lawyer, as well as taking some other steps to boost my security and I'm feeling more safe in my home today than I have been all week. It also helps that there is a police detail on my street right now for construction and they are aware of the situation.
This is the sort of thing that pushes all my emotional panic buttons, but between friends, the professionals and my boyfriend, I'm feeling like I've got support and safety. I also have a plan if the ex continues to escalate. So I'm proud of the fact that I continue to hold my boundaries in the face of something that would have made me cave only a few years ago.
Somebody put this on their FB feed earlier this week, and I've adopted it: "Sometimes God send an ex back into our lives to see if we're still stupid." Nope, not stupid here!
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That’s sounds awful. Glad you have plans and support. You should be proud of yourself and your strength.
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Thanks. It had me in a right state earlier this week. But I calmed myself down and took action.
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I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all that, but a big fuck yeah to taking control of the situation and being surrounded by equally awesome people who support and are there for you!
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Thanks! Usually when you break up, most people disappear from your life. Sadly, he's not figured that out.
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It can be really hard (and really major) to take the steps to set and maintain healthy boundaries for yerself.
I hope he gets a handle on whatever he's dealing with, or at least maintains separation and distance - but the biggest thing here is that no matter what you've got this and you're not letting it steamroll you 💗
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OMG I'm glad you are taking precautions and definitely NOT stupid.
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I am SO sorry you’re going through this. Glad to hear that you have so much support and a plan in place. Sending good thoughts your way!
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I'm so sorry, sweetie!
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Thanks. Yeah, it's rotten, but I'm not letting it slow me down for long.
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I went back to Yoga yesterday...
I am not sure if I want to go back to the yoga studio near by work, or I should find something that offers more " meditation" ...
I am kinda restless about going to a new therapist, but she seems so nice :) I will see on Wednesday.
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I’m thinking about doing yoga. But honestly I think about a lot of things I never do.
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There are so many types of yoga and depending on what you want to achieve there are different studios, I began to practice for my high anxiety, then after a couple of years I did it for fitness, now I want to go back to practice to ease anxiety and meditate... :)
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Probably any kind of yoga would be good for me. It’s just going that is the problem. Like right at this moment I want to sleep.
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Are you ok?
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I had a date on Tuesday with a very introvert and vanilla girl. She was very nervous, couldn't keep eye contact and didn't initiate much conversation. She was ok on text though. Now I'm an introvert as well (maybe not that extreme) so I could relate and understood her. Very honest and down to earth, I complimented her shoes and she said she got them at savers. We made plans for a second date. Any tips on where to take an introvert? I was thinking somewhere quiet
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Art Museum or galleries!
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Art Museum or galleries!
This :D my only issue with this has been the time... my local museum closes quite early and every time is a decent exhibition in town it is packed :(
try to find an art gallery :)
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Is it possible she was just shy? I was quite nervous and had trouble making eye contact with my ex on our first date only because I found him so attractive. Am far from vanilla 😀 Not sure on suggestions tho!
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She works as a customer service representative so maybe she was just tired and needed to recharge. I'm an introvert so I know how it works.
She was nervous (fidgeting, playing with the coasters, very undecided on what to get...) so maybe she found me attractive :p
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I'm so happy to have the life I have. I've got great friends, great experiences, and great family. This week, I felt the love and support from friends when I needed it. This weekend, I'll be able to enjoy some family time and treasure those moments more. It's also a three week countdown to my trip to Italy!! My absolute dream vacation is coming true and I am going solo which is another big step for me.
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It's also a three week countdown to my trip to Italy!! My absolute dream vacation is coming true and I am going solo which is another big step for me.
Shut up that's so exciting, say more things about this! Where in Italy are you heading?
Also, if anyone puts a pigeon on your head and asks for money to take it off, just walk away with the pigeon. They'll run after you and try to get it back.
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😂 stop, they don’t put pigeons on your head, do they?!
I’m going to Venice, Florence and Rome. It’s sort of with a travel group so not entirely on my own thankfully. My activities include a gondola ride, wine tasting in Chianti and the Colosseum. I’m absolutely expecting to have wine shipped home because I love wine. I left some room for other activities and down time to enjoy exploring on my own. I definitely have to stop at the Trevi fountain 🙂
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I figured! I’ve actually had pigeon poo in my hair already
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That's actually considered to be good luck :3
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I’m so excited for you. Italy is my favourite destination. I was in Florence in June and the buildings look medieval. It’s truly breathtaking.
And Rome is just magical, the Colosseum looms out of nowhere. I strongly suggest paying for a tour guide as you’ll skip the queues. Same for the Vatican, those queues can be ridiculous. Also be careful crossing the road in Rome.
I’m happy you’re happy :)
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Thanks Longirl! I am definitely on a tour for the Colosseum. The Vatican is not really a hot spot for me but I’ll decide when I get there. I just can’t wait to take pictures and drink wine!!
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For real - It is one of the funnier scams but in general don't let anyone give you anything. This includes babies. Once you know what to look out for though you'll be fine, really.
Florence is one of my all time favorite cities 😍 Oh, depending when you go try to look for vin brulé, it's everywhere during christmas but might be a little harder to find off season, but it's delicious warm spiced wine. You are gonna have a blast, I'm so excited for you!
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Have fun in Italy. (I’m horrible at keeping up so I’ll just say it now)
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Thanks Tor!
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I had the best day ever since I opened my business! And I'm going on a first date tonight that I'm very excited about. I'm so hopeful it goes well.
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I am going to a concert tonight with some great friends that I'm pumped about and then doing a repeat tomorrow at another concert with other great friends! I'm really lucky to have a lot of awesome people in my life. I was kind of flaking on being better on budgeting this summer so trying to get back into the swing of it this month. I've always been good with my money, but I want to start being prepared and working towards paying down my student loans. While also balancing that with having a life. I can do it!
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Have fun at the concert!
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i saw my new dude's band play last night and they are very good! I got asked to dance by two old fellas and they were really sweet. I told new dude i need to learn to dance and he says he can teach me. He does teach swing- how cute is that?
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I ended things with the pilot on Friday. It may not seem like a good thing, but for me it was a real victory in standing up for myself and valuing my feelings and my place in a relationship. I'll chalk this up to a win!
Also, I cut 6 inches off of my hair on Tuesday. My hair is now up to my chin when it was a few inches past my shoulders. My first day back to work since the haircut is today and everyone is telling me they like it much better than my long hair. Loving all the compliments at a time when I could use a little ego boost.
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Dipping my toe into OLD after ending a longtime marriage. Date #1 (scheduled for tonight) cancelled so I booked a massage instead. Think I’m looking forward to that more anyway. 🤔
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That’s the spirit!
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Thank you! You DoT’s are helping me keep my spirits up and expectations realistic.
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Awww. Hope it helps!
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My son recently started band and a cooking class, so we are bonding over music and food. It's the best.
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Football is back as of tonight
that always puts a smile on my face
unless Aaron Rodgers gets hurt again
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The house is a go. Loan is approved by the VA. Seller and I compromised on the repair list. 3 more weeks til closing. I don't think it has even been a month since I started this process 😬
Dating life is still non-existent, but that's cause I am not actively looking. Spent Tuesday night busting the chops of a lady from the hiking group, cause both she started it, and we were laughing about it pretty much the whole night during trivia. I need to buy a new suit cause a co-worker is getting married, and I lost too much weight. Good problem to have though. 😁
Dude, congrats on the house! Congratulations 🍾 I know how that feels, having bought one when I was married and one when I was divorced. Fucking incredible feeling! So happy for you!
This. (Granted, he's being gutted in that scene 😲)
Congrats on the house. It will feel so good to have your own space. Enjoy!
Thanks, totally look forward to my own space, and due to that space, a custody schedule, which will give me my own time!
Yeah, getting the schedule done is so nice. Mine doesn’t change unless one of us has something really important. Which is great because there’s no guessing. I have our schedule plotted out on the google calendar until next summer. And once the kids get used to the schedule it works great for them.
Awesome news! Congratulations!!!
Praying the VA doesn't eff up with your transaction like they did with the guy I sold my last house to. They messed up the paperwork BIG TIME. Thankfully I was able to let him float the mortgage a few days while our lawyers got it sorted. I'm sure USAA's gotten better since. /s
Pretty sure I am good as far as the loan goes. All processing is back and good to go. And USAA isn't the mortgage company. It's a smaller lender that then sells the loan back to a bank, so who knows what bank will end up with my loan in the end. I have hope that it will be one of the two I have stuff with, cause that would make my life easier!
Going to keep my fingers crossed for you! I'm sure it will be be just fine. And bonus if it's with your current bank! House, then bike, then look out world!
Fuck yea! Falc I'm so happy for you!!
Thanks, me too. Gonna be really fun once I get back out there. Do look forward to setting things up how I want them. :D
Hear me out: Ball pit. But instead of balls - puppies.
...Basically it's a room full of puppies.
How about fire pit middle of the yard, and one of these in the living room?
Yay for the house!! When is the wedding? A new suit is always good to have.
Later this month. Think the 21st. No booze though 😣
what?! no booze means no tipsy bridesmaids looking for a bearded man to give her a night she'll never forget! You must sneak in a flask...
They are super religious. I am not. Totally look forward to someone asking me about church and answering "I'm Buddhist."
Yay for you! Cheers to a new beginning.
Thanks!
Congrats on everything! Getting new clothes for losing weight is a nice problem to have for sure
Definitely better than the feeling you get when your clothes become too small for you 😂