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Pickled_Wizard

I'm done being fat.

Self-indulgent rant incoming:

I'm not morbidly obese or anything, and it's far from the only thing holding me back, but I spent my entire 20s being overweight. Last year, I was able to get down from 230 lbs to 205, but then got hit full speed by the depression truck and went back up to 230. Being overweight is one of my biggest insecurities, and losing weight is the most immediate way I can think of to improve myself.

For the first time in years, I finally met someone that I crushed hard on, obviously the feelings were not mutual, and it made me realize just what I've been missing all this time. So, I might have missed the boat on this person, but I'm going to be fucking ready next time. I'm done being the guy who is just plain not good enough, and the first step is to stop being a fat, lazy piece of shit.

Posted Sep 9, 2018, 3:37 AM UTC

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hyongBC•

If possible, you might wanna try intermittent fasting

I feel that the fasting did help me lose some weight. But I am not on Keto, I heard that Keto and intermittent fasting works great tgt

anw, just take small steps at a time and celebrate those small wins along the way.

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Pickled_WizardOP•

Thanks! It's definitely possible, I'll look into it.

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mike_the_magnificentloser•

I thought that fasting for weight loss is effective at first but all the results go away after you stop fasting. Is this true? Because I might try it if not.

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marioshroomed•

I spent my 20's hovering around 205 lbs. I will be 33 in a few weeks and am currently around 130 lbs trying to get it to go down more. I work out 5 or more days per week.

You can do it. You just have to really want it. My brother who weights roughly 350 lbs decided to lose weight (partially cause I pestered him to do so) and quit drinking soda. It's only been a few weeks and he is already seeing results.

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Pickled_WizardOP•

Nice! Good job, both for your own weight loss and encouraging your brother to get healthier. Please be patient with your brother too. A person doesn't get to 350 by just happening to eat a bit too much, food/soda is probably a coping mechanism for him, he's going to need your support to get a better relationship with food. Good luck out there!

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IcyTask•

Good luck with your weight loss.

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Pickled_WizardOP•

Thank you!

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Moonstartravis•

how tall are you? 230 is a lot even for a taller guy so I think it would definitely help. I felt waaay better after losing 50 pounds and not just physically

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Pickled_WizardOP•

I'm 5'10". It is definitely not a good weight for me. Ideal would be between 170-180. Thanks for the support, and nice job on your own weight loss! 50 lbs down is nothing to sneeze at. You rock!

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RelevantGrapefruit1•

Thank you, I needed this today :)

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Pickled_WizardOP•

I'm sorry to hear that. Yeah, a lot of guys can do well despite being out of shape, but looks do still matter. I'm no charmer myself.

There are many books out there on socialization and social rules(and not just the non-advice "just be yourself" type). I'm currently reading a couple of books by Min Liu, starting with "People Games". It really gets into a lot of the mind games that people play, both consciously and subconsciously. It helps to be able to figure the subtext in a lot of interactions. Maybe it will help, maybe it won't.

I hope you find a way to improve your social skills.

By the way, you do have some. Please don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure you're a generally ok person.

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haymansafc•

A few years ago I lost quite a bit of weight - to the point it was noticeably visible to almost everyone know knows me face to face. It was a lot of hard work and effort...

Sadly, the effort wasn't rewarded with anything other than glancing observations from people. It didn't change my luck. It didn't make me more attractive to members of the opposite sex and didn't make me any more confident in myself either.

I'm happier being the weight I am now, but overall it was a lot of hard work to only still have zero life progression at the end of it all.

I have little doubt the weight is slowly creeping back on again...

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ugly-as-fuck•

That's the spirit!

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LQ-84卌卌卌卌卌•

Just don't get your hopes up. It leads to disappointment. I've lost over 110 pounds (a few dozen more to go), and, honestly, expected a bigger impact on my life. Never anticipated girls throwing themselves at me, but I had specific expectation that haven't been met so far.

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Pickled_WizardOP•

That sucks man. I'm sorry it didn't help as much as you thought it would. I feel like I have pretty realistic expectations. Being overweight is definitely not the only thing in my way, but it's one of the big ones. And if you've lost that much, it was probably one of the big things for you too. I don't expect to magically be a ladies man if I get down to my goal weight, but I do think it is an important step towards being able to live with myself and feel confident enough to give dating a serious shot.

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Pickled_WizardOP•

Thanks! That's actually the plan, and how I lost weight last year!

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SlashSarcazmCurrent life goal: Die while serving in the Army.•

If you’re trying to do something hardcore, look up water fasting on Youtube. You pretty much don’t eat or drink anything besides water for like a week and boom, you’ve already lost like 40 pounds. It seems to work for a lot of people, but for some reason whenever weight loss is discussed, water fasting is rarely brought up O.o

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Darth_O•

Its not sustainable. Weight would just go back up after fasting if you don't change your eating habit.

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SlashSarcazmCurrent life goal: Die while serving in the Army.•

Ok then all OP has to do is change his eating habit after fasting. Boom problem solved

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marioshroomed•

It's not that easy. If it were everybody would be doing it. There wouldn't be any fat slobs left on the planet.

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Pickled_WizardOP•

That seems...really intense, but I could totally see it as a sort of cleanse. Thank you. I probably won't do it for a whole week, but maybe a couple of days.

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