He does stuff.
Posted Nov 22, 2018, 1:33 PM UTC
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Seriously. Also “who is looking after the baby while you’re here?” And “he’s babysitting?” He’s a fucking parent, this is literally the bare minimum you should expect.
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One of my favorite jokes: So, a good father walks into a bar... because it was set so low.
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Yess lol Being a good dad seems to be a breeze lol and all my mom stuff is criticized.
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I saw a thing about how being a good dad was doing the bare minimum and being a bad mum is being distracted for 3 seconds.
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Huh. I think I need to get standards.
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Me too🤣🤣 or a divorce we’ll see which one prevails!
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I totally agree with this but my boss and co-worker made me really angry with this kind of comment last week. I was at work an hour and a half past the end of my shift and my husband had been at home with the kids (who are at a difficult age and are constantly fighting) by himself all weekend while I was working and going out with friends. I made a comment about being frustrated about staying that much later not just for myself but for my husband as well, and they both said, "Oh because he's parenting his children?" I mean, yeah, but we're in it together. I don't know if this is making any sense but I feel like it goes both ways?
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you are absolutely right, I get the same thing too. it does work both ways and both ways are annoying as hell because it puts blame on you, and it is kind of a sexist thing too, a man would have more sympathy for wanting to go home to help his wife, but when a woman does it suddenly she's playing into sexist stereotypes >.<
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Yep. I have an amazingly supportive work group but have had people comment he needs to suck it up when i want to go home early and help with a sick kid. My kids are only 20 months apart. Currently two and three years old. Dealing with either one being sick sucks, its a million times worse by yourself. They are also still nursing so that its a huge comfort fir my kids that he just doesn’t have access too.
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Honestly I got these comments, but only from my older aunts and uncles; our peers were not at all surprised that both my husband and I took an active role in parenting!
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Its mind-blowing to me! I'm supposed to consider myself "lucky" for having such a good man who is willing to "help" with parenting. Oh you mean his share!! My husband and I both work full time and bring roughly the same money in. Why wouldn't we split parenting duties equally?.. I get so irritated when other people fawn all over him for his involvement. Nobody is fawning over me for mine!
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When I lost my shit was when my husband's family pulled him aside and asked him in a very concerned way if I was going to be able to handle him going back to work because he "does so much for me".
He was on parental leave for 3 months, during which time I'll admit I barely changed a diaper or gave a bath. I was, however, spending up to 4 hours a day breastfeeding. Equal parenting responsibilities aside, what the fuck else was he supposed to be doing for 3 months? Sitting on his ass and watching me do everything?