Really attractive men: how do you decide who to date?
Or rather, who do you decide to date? I’m talking about the 9/10s and 10/10s. What’s important to you? Do you only date models? Thanks.
Posted Apr 14, 2019, 9:16 PM UTC
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Who I date and who I commit to were two totally different things. Im now happily married to a woman who met my freakishly high standards. The girls I just banged at my convenience were in a whole different category.
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What are your freakishly high standards?
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For Commitment: Beautiful looks, great career, good family life growing up that included a strong male father figure, emotional stability, financial knowledge and assets, sexual compatibility, religious compatibility, and many many more. I have a life/lifestyle that I had no desire to give up. The list goes on and on. This was only for marriage though. For just dating around, eh whatever, just be somewhat cute and not a bitch.
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Interesting.
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glad you think so. once I realized that men are allowed to have standards also, it was game on. I learned quickly that the older I got, the easier it was.
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I don’t think I’m a 9/10 or 10/10, but I do fairly well with dating and am frequently told I’m attractive.
My only dealbreaker is that I want them to share a similar religious view.
I can overlook really everything else as long as I’m excited to see them again. No idea how to quantify that excitement, though :(
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Wouldn’t know how to rank myself on a looks scale, but I get a lot more attention from women than the majority of men even though I’m short and I’ll get approached and hit on more often than not if I’m out and being social.
When I was younger, less secure, and stupid I used to only take interest in the girls and young women who everyone in my social set thought were the most attractive and ignored girls/women who might have been attractive to me but weren’t on everybody else’s “hottest” lists. Missed more than a few awesome women with that foolishness.
Eventually I got the joke and stopped caring about what other people thought about the women I dated and started emphasizing the things which mattered to me the most (and consequently make women physically attractive to me), kindness, curiosity, and thoughtfulness.
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Cool :) thanks for sharing
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No worries. Why do you ask?
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I’m single, dating and curious about what men think. This was just one of the questions that crossed my mind.
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Why this particular question? Seems like an odd one.
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I’m told I’m handsome, hawt blah blah. I don’t date anyone and I hate compliments about my face/body and world prefer they be about my character.
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I used a random number generator to pick a date from my e-black book.
Then, I when I'm about to pick up my date, I wake up from my dream and groan because I've remembered that I have to clean up my backyard.
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Sexiest thing out there for me is a girl who has drive. Small business owner, academic, career climber etc. If a girl has absolutely nothing going on besides convincing instagram her life is fun I don't care how amazing her body is.
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Lol, even if you are very attractive it's still not easy to date very beautiful women. It's mostly 6s and 7s that approach me. 9s and 10s are pretty difficult to chat up unless you meet them socially as they're constantly surrounded by desperate guys. When women are that attractive it affects every aspect of their lives in a way that is totally alien to all but the tiniest minority of men.
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Good point
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Don’t date the mean girl. Thanks for the insight!
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I can't say I'm a 9 or 10/10 guy. But, girls have always liked me quite a lot. Literally got offered to sneak to the bathroom for a blowjob by some girl I barely knew in my gym class in 11th grade. There's a lot of weird shit like that that's happened to me that I could say. But, I guess when you know you have options, you're naturally more picky, or can afford to be. I don't like super attractive chicks, generally. It's not that I don't, ya know, like them, like any straight male, but the reality is a lot of them are airheads and I simply cannot click with them even remotely. The most attractive traits in a girl are curiosity and individuality for me. And honestly, weirdness. Not a bad kinda weird but the "good" kind in which as I already stated, gives them a real sense of individuality. That's easily the most beautiful thing in a girl. All the girls I've genuinely liked have had these traits, including the girl I'm seeing currently, and definitely aren't "models" or anything. If you do find a girl who is physically a 10, but also has all the other things I'm saying... well, I'm afraid you found a unicorn.
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I have been told repeatedly by many people that I'm pretty handsome.
Personally I've noticed that super attractive women tend to be more entitled and snobby. Sure I have met some genuine, down to earth girls who were absolute stunners, but it's pretty rare and it's fairly energy-efficient of me to assume that stunners are likely high maintenance. 10/10s generally live their life with nothing but positive reinforcement and this often leads to inflated senses of self worth and capability. They often value things completely contrary to what I value.
All the women I've been seriously interested in, including the girl I'm with now, aren't really that attractive, but they check all of the boxes that are important to me, like:
Of course I want to be physically attracted to my girl, but the value I place in a woman is more like adding together all of the things I value (math nerds would call this a linear regression) and beauty is only one component of that.
Don't get me wrong, I've had fun with beautiful girls but that's not exactly how I choose my long term partners.
I don't find this at all when it comes to naturally beautiful women. They're usually a lot less bitter and more happy in themselves. They're also often lonely because a lot of people treat them weirdly. Either people are jealous and treat them badly or want to use them to boost their own social status.
There’s hope for me yet. Thank you!