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I’m talking about men in my experience but it’s probably not gender specific. I just find it frustrating and very confusing that some of the men I’ve dated or hooked up with seem to think communication = commitment. Like the basic amount of mental/emotional energy that’s required to be respectful and considerate is considered too much. Once you ask for that it’s like “I’m not ready for a relationship”. It weirdly doesn’t let things progress or not progress naturally or something. Like chill? Just be honest? I just want to know how you are/if you wanna hang... I can deal with “I can’t talk right now”. Or anything really as long as it’s honest... why is this so hard to do for some people.

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Just wondering if it’s even worth it to try (i.e. be patient) for someone who is likes you, who you like, but self describes as “not ready for commitment or a relationship right”, needs to take things slow, wants more space and to take things very slowly, and ambiguously?

I like this guy a lot but I don’t know if I should hold any sort of torch for him. He’s told me he has issues, that it IS him (even at my repeated line of questioning and being like “if you don’t like me it’s okay” - he actually thought I was making this about me..).

I respect that he needs time and space... he told me not to wait for him. I know he has feelings for me. He

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Just thinking.... short women think of everyone above a certain height as “tall” because after a certain height it (seems) hard to really tell the different between people. So: tall guys: do women feel more or less the same kind of small to you?

I’m dating someone who teases me, which I am sensitive to since my father teased me a lot, not always in a nice way and to delegitimize me and my feelings (ie tease me to get a rise out of me and then call me too sensitive). But I’m trying to remember the guys I date are not my father and teasing can be harmless.

I’m dating a guy that likes teasing me, and I feel it’s from an affection place but I’m not sure. This morning, at the coffee shop near my house, he offered to get me coffee multiple times but I was like “I’ll make one at work” and when we were at the counter and the barista asked me if I wanted something, and I said “no thank you” he piped up that it was because I don’t like their

And it’s sort of fucking with me. Is this how I need to be... pretend to be aloof or uninterested? I’m an authentic, warm and responsive person. If someone is “chasing” me and I’m into them, I will decide to give it a go.

I do not understand this behaviour and I’m worried that I need to appear cold and aloof (which is contrary to my nature) to keep a man’s interest. I’m not going to do this, of course, but I feel a bit demoralized.

This same person also told me he pulls away when people get close. So I know he has some kind of avoidant attachment style probably. But still. It hurts and I fundamentally do not understand this type of behaviour. Especially because part of me knew he really d

For context my (female) friend is a 4’11 woman with a 6’2 boyfriend. I’ve been single for awhile and am mentioning to all my friends that I’m single, and also that I have a preference for certain things, one of them being tall man (and ideally a bit bigger - I like a bit of chonk). The reason is that I’m a feminine 5’8 woman, and nothing makes me feel quite as protected, feminine and turned on than a big tall guy.

When I mentioned this to my particular friend she basically said that I was shallow and compared my preference for height to being racist. It was really hurtful. I know it’s because her male family members are short and have difficulty dating. She herself has been discriminated a

Hi,

Bit conflicted... a guy I’m messaging with and am supposed to go on a date Thursday with got very drunk on Sunday and sent me some weird, generally harmless, but weird drunken text messages. Like incoherent. He’s 40. We had been texting on and off for about a week before this drunken incident.

Now I’m not so sure about this date. This sort of thing would not usually phase me but we haven’t even met once. Something in me is going “red flag”. Or am I overreacting?

I think I’m going to start dating this guy I met, who is an amazing but an extremely straight, extremely cis guy. He’s 100% a straight man. I’ve always been into masculine people - men or women - and after dating only women for the past three years, I decided to give dating men a try. It was supposed to be just for fun. I was supposed to have a summer of dating around and just living my life. However, I accidentally in this process met someone great. I could see this eventually growing into something else.

I feel extremely guilty. Like I’m betraying the queer community of which I was a part of (I stopped identifying as queer a few months ago and identify only as bisexual now). I don’t want

Can we talk about teeth and dating? I don't have perfect teeth, but I also don't have horribly crooked teeth either. They're not perfect. Some of my partners have had some kind of extreme affinity for my less than perfect teeth. I'm considering getting them fixed but it would probably be like a year (of being single) and wearing Invisalign or something (not to mention the cost).

However, I can't help but think it's probably hurting my chances in dating, especially online dating. I'm not insecure about much about my body/appearance, but not having perfect teeth is one thing I am somewhat insecure about.

What are your thoughts on dating without perfect teeth and/or dating someone with

Or rather, who do you decide to date? I’m talking about the 9/10s and 10/10s. What’s important to you? Do you only date models? Thanks.