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PinkClubCs

How to let myself cry?

I suppressed negative emotions for years because I thought it made me strong.

Now I think strength is allowing yourself to experience your emotions honestly.

I still have issues crying though, I want to cry right now but it won't happen.

I feel like I'd feel better if I could cry so if anyone has any tips please let me know.

I can feel the urge to cry, I feel like behind my eyes is welling up but the tears won't come out or when they do it's as if I forcibly squeezed out one/two tears which feels incomplete

Posted May 3, 2019, 2:55 PM UTC

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"I suppressed negative emotions for years because I thought it made me strong.

Now I think strength is allowing yourself to experience your emotions honestly."

Well said. I have done the same and ended up in the same conclusion.

However, I fear it's too late for me to recover. I'm only a shell now.

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PinkClubCsOP•

Don't give up hope, just keep being honest with yourself and the emotions will return over time.

It's been a gradual process for me but I feel like I experience a broader range of emotions now than I did before. I view as the mental equivalent of a gym, if you haven't been in years you won't have a six pack in a week but you'll probably look much better after a year and even better after another year if you stay consistent.

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SubtractOne•

I feel the same way. The only way I can get myself to cry is pretty much to watch youtube videos of people doing selfless/self sacrificial acts. I don't really know why, but that triggers it a bit, and from there I can almost gear that crying towards things in my life. It then turns into me crying a bit over how I haven't been able to feel much and that's all I want whether it's hard or not. Then I notice it after a bit and the feeling goes numb and I'm back to my old state.

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ShadeRider•

Stub your toe bro

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PinkClubCsOP•

brb gonna step on some lego

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ShadeRider•

Thought you wanted to cry, not die

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PinkClubCsOP•

I'm feeling very all or nothing atm

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ShadeRider•

Crying is overrated just drink a monster energy my G

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Krypt0night•

I'm in the exact same boat. The only time I've been able to cry in countless years now is when I full on have a panic attack. And that's super not healthy. I often feel the tears behind my eyes as well, but just can't go beyond that no matter how badly I would like to just cry and get it out.

I know none of that actually helps, but just know you're not alone.

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PinkClubCsOP•

Thank you very much for your comments it is comforting to know that I'm not alone.

I find I can normally only cry through extreme anger. I have to be like fuck this person for that horrible thing they've done or I beat myself up saying stuff like that was so stupid how did you not think about that before doing it etc. I'd like to get to a point where I can allow tears from sadness less aggressive emotions than anger/rage, it's coming today just wasn't the day.

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