As soon as he stopped needing to “chase” me, he stopped being into me

And it’s sort of fucking with me. Is this how I need to be... pretend to be aloof or uninterested? I’m an authentic, warm and responsive person. If someone is “chasing” me and I’m into them, I will decide to give it a go.

I do not understand this behaviour and I’m worried that I need to appear cold and aloof (which is contrary to my nature) to keep a man’s interest. I’m not going to do this, of course, but I feel a bit demoralized.

This same person also told me he pulls away when people get close. So I know he has some kind of avoidant attachment style probably. But still. It hurts and I fundamentally do not understand this type of behaviour. Especially because part of me knew he really did crave intimacy as he was very physically affectionate (in private), and it was clear deep down he wanted affection.