Do you think you are/would be a good communicator in a relationship, and what do you consider "good communication" to be?
I was thinking about this after reading various comments here to the tune of "most men are bad at sex", and wondering how much of that is people being unwilling to clearly communicate what they want.
What are you feelings about bringing up unpleasant topics? How do you balance making your views heard and hurting someone's feelings or ego? Do you expect someone pick up on your non-verbal signals, or are you more liable to express yourself using words? What would you prefer your partner to do?
Posted Jul 4, 2019, 10:03 PM UTC
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Not being open to communication about sex is insane. Different people like different things. There's no universal sexual solution lol one woman might want 15 minutes of foreplay while the other just wants to go straight dribble lmao There's nothing bad about asking
I think I'm a good communicator and I love hearing feedback about myself. I'd prefer my partner to just be upfront and honest with me. I respect it a lot. I'm a firm believer in there being no such thing as a stupid question.
In my own experience, people are very fragile and sensitive. Nothing wrong with that, but it can cause unexpected consequences. I prefer using the sandwich method when talking to sensitive people
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I hate it when people want you to pick up on hints for something crucial. If it's serious, tell me to my face. Don't beat around the bush or drop hints. It'll more than likely cause confusion and that's not needed. Too many people expect you to read between the lines for very serious topics. Play these types of guessing games and I'm gonna bounce.