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(by popular request)

What are you thoughts?

..what are your feelings?

I was thinking about this after reading various comments here to the tune of "most men are bad at sex", and wondering how much of that is people being unwilling to clearly communicate what they want.

What are you feelings about bringing up unpleasant topics? How do you balance making your views heard and hurting someone's feelings or ego? Do you expect someone pick up on your non-verbal signals, or are you more liable to express yourself using words? What would you prefer your partner to do?

(or girlfriend/non-heteronormative romantic partner)

Clearly there are traits pretty much everyone considers good or bad, like pulling one's weight in the relationship, not being abusive, and so on. But what do you value, specifically? Or maybe what do you not care about, that other people seem to care about? What kind of things would your dream partner do/say? What kind of things would they not do or say? What gives you those warm fuzzy feelings? What would make you say "I'm lucky to be dating this person"?

I know some of y'all hate these and I apologize in advance, but it's hard not to share these things when they happen to you.

So about a month ago I posted about how I was getting back into the grind of trying to date because I was starting to feel pretty good about myself following a lengthy self-improvement break, and that I wouldn't visit this sub again until I either failed miserably again or had a success story to bother everyone with.

Well, uh, even with my cautious optimism, things have been going shockingly better than I expected. A few days after I posted my "farewell", I started talking to a girl on one of the dating sites I was on. She's funny, whip-smart, cute... I ask her ou