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deadrs

It’s so hard talking to people, that I feel like I’m pushing everyone away.

Help

For example: at work, I’m mainly in a medium sized room with 7 other people every day. These coworkers are fantastic people, great work ethics and great senses of humour. We all get together really well.

But most of the time, I’m quiet and in my head is just “What do I say? How do I even start a conversation? What if I stutter and say the wrong word or pronounce a word wrong or forget what I’m saying in the middle of talking or what if what i’m saying is boring?”

I need to get the fuck out of my head.

Does anyone have any advice or anecdotes that could help me? Any response is appreciated, thank you for reading.

Edit: also, to just talk about internet anxiety.. i’m rereading my title and post and second guessing everything that I’m saying. Thanks anxiety!

Posted Aug 15, 2019, 6:57 PM UTC · edited

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Ahren_with_an_h•

You're skipping what matters and focusing on what doesn't.

Make eye contact and smile at them. If you feel up to it say hi.

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UndercoverCockroach•

I think you probably focus on one co worker and develop a friendship with them. So they can include you in the conversation. Or usually when you interrupt unless the people are rude will say it’s ok go ahead so don’t worry about interrupting. If you still need help, try to bring up how you feel like at the beginning of the conversation and they’ll most likely understand by trying to include you. If that still doesn’t work, I honestly don’t know what to say since I also feel the same way you feel around people. Hope this is good enough advice for you.

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