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bones_27

Birth control issues. Anxiety every month.

Yup. What the title says. I get anxious every frikking month. And last month was a doozy, because I had many symptoms and a slightly late period.

I don't want to get pregnant again. I don't want to have to even think about making a decision to go through with it or not (I and my partner are firmly one and done, although I decided and told him I'm not having a termination and that we'd find a way to make it work if I did accidentally fall pregnant again). He won't get a vasectomy yet, which is fine, it's a big decision and it's his body. So we use condoms, which aren't super great % wise for preventing pregnancy.

But hormonal BC isn't something I want to do, it's horrible. I hate being on it, it messes up my head and body real bad. Then again, on my natural cycle I feel like a sad, angry, anxious awful person who doesn't enjoy being me, being a mother, or actually anything for over half of the cycle. So maybe fake hormones will be a good thing?

SO CONFUSED FAR OUT! Sometimes it's good to yell into the void but any thoughts or comments or suggestions are very welcome.

Posted Dec 30, 2019, 12:38 AM UTC

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aft1083🌈 Leo, 7.1.19•

Hi! I am in a similar boat: firmly one and done, no vasectomy yet for my husband. In our case, he’s willing, but I wasn’t quite ready to pull the trigger on the vasectomy yet, it just felt very permanent.

I got a Liletta IUD placed about 10 weeks after birth and I am really liking it! I had about 3-4 weeks of bleeding, and then since then, no periods (shouldn’t have them again until it’s removed). Good for 7 years, which by then I think I’ll/we’ll be more than ready for that vasectomy!

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jditt•

I got a Mirena at 6 weeks PP and spotted for ever! Like 6 months. Wonder if it would have been better if I waited but OP IUD is your answer or telling your partner that it’s his turn to take on birth control which is what I plan to do if we are really one and done.

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aft1083🌈 Leo, 7.1.19•

Glad I waited, hearing this! I am on blood thinners (due to a pregnancy complication) so I was worried about excessive bleeding.

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jditt•

Yeah I was pretty surprised because I was done spotting from giving birth so the 6 months was super annoying and heavy at the beginning, so heavy that I went in to get it checked. Glad you had a different experience

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RockCollector🌈Emily, April 2018 |🕊 Aspen, April 2017•

I'm 20 months pp with my rainbow. I'd accept getting accidentally pregnant now but very much not ideal. We used condoms for the first year and it gave me so much anxiety and I hated it. I'm on the mini pill now. I put it off until I was comfortable with it potentiallu lowering my milk supply (which it did my first time around starting it at 3 weeks PP but didn't this time). I think it helps my drastic mood swings every month and and definitely lowers how bad a period is but isn't nearly as drastic as being on the regular pill. I feel more like myself on it than I did before. I considered an IUD but I wasn't super sure about it so I just put it off and never really came back to the idea. The mini pill kicks in after 2 days IIRC and as long as you take it within like an hour window each day you're covered. We just use condoms for two days if for whatever reason I miss one. It has decreased my anxiety so much!

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bones_27OP•

That's really helpful thank you. Maybe the mini pill could be a good option for me. It's progesterone only, which is exactly the hormone that lowers after ovulation so maybe that makes sense that it would improve life for you (and may well do that for me).

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RockCollector🌈Emily, April 2018 |🕊 Aspen, April 2017•

The nice part is you can start it and pretty easily change your mind if you decide to go with another option! That's why I decided to go with it originally: to give me time to think about what I wanted to do long-term. It has just worked out for me so far so I haven't wanted to switch.

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the_adriator•

Before we started trying, I had a diaphragm. It worked really well for us and was by far the best birth control for me, since any hormonal birth control always makes me super sick sooner or later. I wish I’d switched to a diaphragm sooner, and I was a little sad when I had to say goodbye to it (I had a hysterectomy, so...). I’d 100% recommend one.

It sounds like you’d benefit from the hormones, but a diaphragm makes a good backup method!

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