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I have confirmed adeno and suspected endo (no laparoscopic surgery yet). I’m pretty used to the array of symptoms including fluctuating bowel issues from loose to hard to pass.

But I have had diarrhoea now for 3 weeks. Had an array of bloods and stool labs and all were normal with nothing explaining the situation. Strange and annoying. But I’m now getting worried. I have another doc appointment next week.

Are there others with similar experiences? Is it ‘just and endo/adeno’ thing? Or is it possible something else is going on? What did you do? What other tests could I request? (I’m in Aotearoa / New Zealand

Hi old crew, looooong time since I’ve posted here. My rainbow baby is now 4!

I’ve thought for the longest time that I’d like to get a death certificate for my first baby. But unsure whether I’m ‘allowed’?

I’m in New Zealand and there’s no legal requirement to register a pregnancy loss if it’s before 20 weeks. I don’t have a birth certificate. I had a TFMR at 14/15 weeks.

Wondering if anyone had any experience they can share?

Ignore any downvotes, there are bots lurking and downvoting en masse.

This is a tiny bit of biology that really helped me make sense of my loss and come to terms with my grief after losing my first pregnancy.

There's a biological occurrence called microchimerism. I recommend Googling it. It refers to the exchange of baby and mothers DNA in utero. To me this is a beautiful concept as my take on it means that my tiny human will always be with me, no matter what. My tiny human is part of me. Part of who I am now and will (likely) always be there. And as I struggled (still do 4 years on actually) with a loss of self this is something I cling to at times, because there's a reason both physical and metaphorical: my baby is still with me and changed who I am.

Shar

From time to time there are kind souls who post trigger and content warnings for various media that may affect people who have experienced pregnancy and/or baby loss in some form.

All the posts seem to do well and always result in many other kind souls posting other media with T/CW.

With the help of the mods, I'd love to have a pinned post or listed in community info or rules or somewhere a list of all these. There may need to be a few separate posts, books, TV, movies, songs, etc. but it seems like half an idea to have a permanent list at the very least.

I'm not a reddit geek, I know the basics, but I'd love to be a part of a project like this.

What say you ttcafterloss folks?

Yup. What the title says. I get anxious every frikking month. And last month was a doozy, because I had many symptoms and a slightly late period.

I don't want to get pregnant again. I don't want to have to even think about making a decision to go through with it or not (I and my partner are firmly one and done, although I decided and told him I'm not having a termination and that we'd find a way to make it work if I did accidentally fall pregnant again). He won't get a vasectomy yet, which is fine, it's a big decision and it's his body. So we use condoms, which aren't super great % wise for preventing pregnancy.

But hormonal BC isn't something I want to do, it's horrible. I hate being on

I'd really appreciate any recommendations for tv shows (or movies and docos). Need them to be 100% safe. No child harm, no loss (at all preferred), obvs no triggers for baby / preg loss.

Side note: how's the trigger situation in the new tv miniseries for Les Miserables? Thinking specifically of the whole Fantine and Cosette thing, especially when the latter is abused as a child in care...

Today marks 3 years since I lost my first pregnancy.

I had to spend it making yummy food, that I didn't even enjoy eating, for my extended family that... well... let's just say delicious food is wasted on them. And I had to put makeup on. And dress nice. And talk. And be around people. Most of whom I generally don't like. And now really don't like because 80% of them made some stupid or rude comment. So I almost cried multiple times. And it was awful. Because I just wanted to be at home, crying, hugging my partner, watching crappy TV, drinking wine and playing with my beautiful 18 month old.

3 years. And still, sometimes, it can feel just like yesterday.

How am I supposed to cope, on the anniversary of my loss, when I have to spend the afternoon with extended family?

Unless you want to cry buckets and have wounds opened wide, don't watch season 4.

I watched 3 episodes and won't watch any more. It's brutally realistic. Which is nice to see on one hand, the grief being portrayed so well, and awfully triggering on the other.

Just got my first period 2.5 weeks ago after the birth of my baby in May 2017 (I know, how lucky am I to have gone so long with no period!)

Now it looks like I have another one. I should be on cycle day 17 of my first cycle but instead I'm having another period. What gives! I also just had 6 days of near permanent nausea similar to pregnancy nausea and it's still hanging around.

I'm still breastfeeding between 2-4 times in 24 hours. Surely that can't be the reason though...And I've done 2 pregnancy tests so thankfully it's not that.

Any insights?

Hoping there are some NZ folk who can answer my question.

[I would put a caveat "I know this seems ridiculous" but y'all know how bad triggers can be.]

Wanting to know about the baby loss in Westside Season 4 trigger. I know it's in episode 2. But how bad is it?

Been feeling down lately and I just couldn't put my finger on why. Until it hit me today (watching Anne With An E eye roll). It's definitely not the whole picture but part of it is a) struggling with feelings of sadness for losing my first at the same time as the happiness that comes from having my living baby and b) I love my living baby so darn much, I still have moments where I don't think this is real or where I'm anxious to lose them.

Would really appreciate hearing any thoughts.

I know, I know, don't mention Christmas after the holidays are well and truly over...

How did everyone find the Secret Santa? Anyone want to share what they got?

Also did anyone not receive their gift (me)? Figuring mine must've got lost in the mail or something but no matter, I gave an awesome gift and that's the main part!