Is this a thing? And if so, why do they do this?
My exBPD had lived in three different countries by the time she was 25. Also, various different parts of our city. When we together we talked about moving to another country. Also the ease at which she gave up the home that we had been making together was quite startling. What gives?
Posted Jan 15, 2020, 11:56 AM UTC
Yep. Constant travel too. I’ve become weary of people who travel too much.
Their mask breaks in one location so they move somewhere else where no one knows them to replace the mask or reinvent themselves until the mask breaks again. Rinse. Repeat.
My SOpwbpd and I have moved to 4 different states in 15 years of marriage. I was young and naive and would have done anything for her, but now I see that it was always her idea to move and it was obviously a way to start over and reinvent herself .
Mine reinvented herself as an Instagram travel personality and blew all her money on a three year backpacking odyssey. I have zero idea how she afforded any of this as she couldn't hold a job for more than a few weeks, so either an inheritance kicked in, she's now pay4play, or daddy paid for all of it to keep her out of his hair.
My BPD has broken at least two rental contracts in the past by lying that they were being stalked and felt unsafe in the current apartment. In her case she just needed something new to divert her attention I believe. This is why they love to shop and spend money
My exBPD (quiet) once told me that she was moving to a different state. This was probably a provocation to see how I would respond. I kept my cool. Later, she said "I realized it's not that I hate [current city], I hate myself".
They are trying to escape their pain.