Can we get a list of affirmations for those (including myself) who are going through dark times?
One of the most helpful for me so far: it could never have worked despite your best efforts.
Posted Jan 16, 2020, 12:57 AM UTC
Best advice I was given, “there is nothing you could have been, said or done that would have changed any of it”.
The struggling gets better, life without chaos is something you’ll begin to cherish :)
Letting toxic people go is not an act of cruelty, it is an act of self care.
If your presence brings no benefit, your absence is not a loss
Better to have love and lost them to remain with a psycho the rest of your life
"It's like trying to shove spaghetti up a wild cat's ass. You just piss off the cat and get covered in scratches. Best leave the cat alone."
This made me literally LOL. Thanks I needed that.
This made me laugh
“Lie down with dogs and your bound to get fleas,”
“He was the squeaky wheel that needed all the oil,”
“You can lead a horse to water but you cannot force it to take a drink,”
“She was an angel craving chaos; he was the demon seeking peace,”
“Live and let live,”
“Stop seeking others for spiritual nutrition,”
I'm not there yet, but I'm almost.
Its OK to not be OK, as long as I'm better than I was.
Hear, hear!
They don't have the capacity to love you the way that you deserve to be loved.
They can't see you.
They are a bottomless pit of need. (When I think of my ex, and all he took from me, I imagine the proverbial bucket with a hole in it. Nothing I did would have ever been enough. The demands would have increased and the goal posts would have moved as time went on).
They are never going to change. They won't seek help because they truly believe there is nothing wrong with them.
You deserve better than this.
This [relationship] was/is abuse. I do not deserve to be abused.
Being angry does not mean that you are being hateful, it means you love yourself enough to get upset at your own mistreatment.
"The darkest hour is just before dawn." -- Thomas Fuller
A pwBPD is a very sad, self-destructive, self-pitying psychopath. They don't exist.
When someone shows you who they are believe them!
“The only winning move is NOT to play. You lost before you even started. “.
“They aren’t loyal to you , they are loyal to the their need of you. Once their needs change, so does their loyalty. “
“They work the facts around their feelings while a healthy person works their feelings around the facts. “
Loyal to their needs. Well said.
Mine wanted an escape, wanted to move in with me so bad. Get away from her town, family, friends, coworkers....
She found another way out, and didn’t need me anymore.
Ooo the third quote really strikes home.