Came across some today by accident. It really made me miss her and think of the good times. What’s the best thing to do with stuff like this? Delete and discard? To me these memories have a lot of meaning and as horrifically as it ended I don’t want to just disregard what felt like a significant relationship and period of my life. I’ve never had to do this with previous exes but is it best?
Posted Mar 3, 2020, 1:49 AM UTC
Delete when you're ready, but it's probably best to. I threw away a rock she colored a heart onto for me with sidewalk chalk. For a minute, I stopped and remembered how flattered I was that, for all the difficulty, she did love me. It was very meaningful because the context was horrific, and it was a breath of fresh air. Then I washed the chalk off in the sink so I couldn't pull it back out of the trash later. It wasn't real. It has to go.
Delete and move on
I just deleting mine, 5 months after she left. Boy was it hard seeing these again especially pics from early on. I been avoiding doing it as the memories are extremely triggering but after a recent Hoover this weekend and some extremely hurtful words spewed at me, if felt like a new wave of heartbreak. Figured it was the best time as this feeling is fresh again. Hundreds of photos, not gonna lie there were tears spilled during it. Like others said when you feel it is time, stay strong friend.
All my friends were telling me to burn all of his stuff but now it's been months later and I still can't do it. I get how you feel
All gone. Nothing i want to remember. Every note, picture, memory. It was all fake anyways.
I deleted a lot of things that were too painful to look at. Some stuff I kept because It doesn't hurt to see. Really depended on how the image/memento effected me.
Put it away, hidden folder.
Delete. Don’t question it. You’re romancing the drug so to speak
I couldn’t delete all the photos we had together... I deleted all of them from social media when I was angry, but I stored them in a folder...
How long has it been? Are you emotionally over her? Is there a risk of you breaking no contact?
If you are already in a safe place then keeping them should be okay. Only look at them once a year or so. As time goes on you will have less and less of an emotional reaction to seeing them.
i hate that i got in the habbit of deleting things.
ZIP them and store them on Google Drive.