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dogsofhell

Found sisters bf on dating app...

I’m just looking for some advice for what to do in this weird situation.

Backstory/disclaimer: I have never used a dating app so I don’t really get much about how they work other than the basic stuff. So I might be completely overreacting here.

So on to the current situation. My stepsister has been dating the same guy for a little over two years. They first met on Bumble. They see each other a few times a week and live in separate places but are very serious. Recently I know they have discussed marriage and talked about going engagement ring shopping together. The bf is a Christian and they have gone to church together every week. He’s 35 and she is 32.

Tonight, I got a message from my single friend who uses dating apps. She stumbled across my stepsisters bf on Bumble. Sent me a screenshot. The photo looks recent but it’s hard to say for sure.

Now my stepsister and this guy have had some rocky moments in the past but I didn’t think this would be something he would do. My sister and I are very close but of course I don’t want to bring this up to her unless it’s warranted...

Really I’m just alone in quarantine at the moment and have no idea what to do and just looking for some feedback. Is it possible to delete your app and still have an active profile and that this profile has sat there for more than two years? That’s what I’d like to believe but it seems pretty odd — do many people have these profiles? Or is this just totally shady?

I don’t want to overreact but feel really confused about this one and whether I should say something. WWYD, people of reddit?!

Posted Apr 6, 2020, 5:46 AM UTC

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BellaBlue06•

I don’t think that you can have an account that’s up for matching if you’re not active but I don’t use that app. It seems super suspicious I would definitely make sure that you have the screenshots and proof before bringing it up because if it’s true she deserves to know.

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Red_nl98•

It could be that its an old profile, but you could inform your sister, DO tell her that it might be nothing or ask him if he has ever been on tinder, if he says yeah it pobs isn't any shady stuff

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S103793•

"There is a common misconception that when you delete your app you also delete your profile however this is not the case. We always advise users who want to delete their profile to do this through the in-app settings to completely avoid their app being seen within the app.".

So it may be possible that the account it still around despite it not being active.

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xoxoLizzyoxox•

You could say "My friend was on a dating app and someone is using your boyfriends pictures on there" then you can show her and she can say "oh its his old account" or will know if they are recent or if its a screen name he would use etc etc

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