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I have an ex-friend with very severe untreated BPD (the type who often posts about her BPD and how hard it is for her). It's a long story, but we were close for a few years until she did something very inappropriate that SEVERELY crossed my boundaries. Then, when I expressed to her this was the case she completely split on me and since then has been acting insanely (contacting my family members, blocking, smear campaigns resulting in people unfollowing me on social media etc).

She also moved to my home city (she is not from here) and it has integrated herself into my life so much that it hasn't been easy to escape hearing about her. My main issue is that we still have mutual friends wh

I have an ex-friend with severe BPD. She got married a couple of years ago and from what I have seen is very emotionally abusive towards her husband. Me and others have witnessed her insult, belittle and yell in his face and insult his weight and appearance. She had a huge meltdown on both his birthday and Christmas and ruined those holidays, and she’s generally just constantly criticizing and forcing him to do things he doesn’t seem to want to do (as an example he has very specific dietary preferences and she threw a fit because he wouldnt eat a specific dish and kept wearing him down until he finally gave in). She convinced him to quit his stable job and move to a city where he knows no on

I have an ex-friend with bpd who has been acting really creepy and abusive towards me and it’s getting increasingly difficult to ignore. We were previously close but she broke my boundaries in a really inappropriate way by intervening in a situation between me and my ex (which resulted in a horrible situation for me) and wouldn’t listen to me when I tried to reason with her and explain why what she did was harmful which resulted in me taking space. She refuses to see my side of the issue and totally flipped what she did back on me and insisting I be the one to apologize. Over several weeks, she sent me multiple messages all with various tones (angry, sad, pleasant, threatening) and I barely

Hello everyone! First of all I want to say thanks to this community as it’s been a really helpful resource to me. I’m 34F and it’s been clicking in the past couple of years that a lot of my experiences and traits align pretty strongly with ASD. I’ve been reading a lot and learning and it’s honestly been both really eye opening and useful but also quite jarring, humbling and difficult at times. I’m sure others here can relate.

I’m posting now because I’m considering going in for a formal assessment — there’s a place in my city that offers fulsome assessments that include not only for autism but also speech language pathology, full mental health screening and more. Although it’s pricey, I th

I get really overwhelmed by my closet which seems to be constantly overstuffed. I keep convincing myself I love everything so Ive decided the way I’m going to declutter is to tackle one category of items at a time.

So I’m going to start with shorts — will put all my shorts into a bin. Over the next however many days I will style one pair every day. If I can’t style them in a way I’ll actually wear or don’t like how they fit etc they have to go. And if I style them and make it through the day but at the end of the day I feel like they didn’t make me feel good to wear for w/e reason I also will get rid of them. (Keeps go back into the drawer, everything else gets donated/sold). Once the bin

I find myself struggling with this question as a person who has never really had a healthy relationship with shopping. My main vices are clothes and makeup. I’ve done a LOT of decluttering and am trying to be more conscious about what I bring into my home. But I still find myself browsing somewhat obsessively (and filling and abandoning online carts) and I’m trying to stop. I can’t really fathom how a regular (non shopping addicted) person shops and how much money they allocate for these things. I find a get a very all or nothing attitude about it. What do you guys think a “normal” relationship to shopping and spending looks like, and what healthy examples do you look to?

This is a difficult one to write but here goes...

I’m confused. I have been in a years-long relationship with a partner who has often not respected my boundaries.

When we first got together, my partner and I were exploring a casual dom/sub dynamic. He was the dom but looking back he really has not honoured my consent in many activities. Examples include:

• calling me a slut or other names while having sex even though I got quiet or told him I don’t want to be called that + making me repeat him and call him daddy even though again I don’t like that or want that

• hard spankings or continuing with play even when I am visibly uncomfortable, asking multiple times for consent when I have alre

I’m just looking for some advice for what to do in this weird situation.

Backstory/disclaimer: I have never used a dating app so I don’t really get much about how they work other than the basic stuff. So I might be completely overreacting here.

So on to the current situation. My stepsister has been dating the same guy for a little over two years. They first met on Bumble. They see each other a few times a week and live in separate places but are very serious. Recently I know they have discussed marriage and talked about going engagement ring shopping together. The bf is a Christian and they have gone to church together every week. He’s 35 and she is 32.

Tonight, I got a message from my

I’m not sure if anyone can relate to this. But I came to a realization last night that I shop because I am lonely and therefore feel inadequate. My spouse works a LOT -- like comes home from his day job and is on his laptop until bed time. And when we go out together somewhere he is often on his phone responding to emails.

Last night we had dinner plans at a friends house and he arrived separate from me and sat on the couch working for most of them night and we had to call him to the table twice. It just made me realize... damn I am lonely. Even in company. I also travel somewhat often for work and he doesn’t like it when I call him to chat while I’m away because he’s usually busy. I feel

Yesterday I was moving a few cosmetic items from my bathroom into the box in my bedroom that I keep for excess products and I realized it’s stuffed full. Overflowing. No more room.

Before I had this box I would keep all my extras under the sink. Then that got out of control (cue my husband opening under the sink and yelling OH MY GOD) so I moved it all into a big box that’s sitting neatly in the corner of the bedroom beside my dresser.

I call it a “box of shame” because it’s just shameful to me how much stuff I’ve acquired that I can’t even use yet. It overwhelms me sometimes to look through it. Which is why my goal for a low buy this year is to start making that box lighter. I hope to us

So one of me and my husband’s best friends moved across the country a while back so we rarely get to hang out with him in person. I think the last time he was at our place was two years ago. Since then I have been making a big effort to simplify my life. Last year, my spouse and I collectively got rid of about 10 full trash bags of stuff (mostly donations) which was mind boggling since we live in a one bedroom apartment. Since then, I have slowly been decluttering a lot.

Anyways so this friend came over on New Year’s Eve and one of the first things he said was “wow your place is so nice!” And my spouse said “haven’t you been here before?” And the friend replied: “yes but it was so much more

Posting here to keep myself accountable.

I’ve planned my no/low buy for 2020 and I’m starting as of now.

I’ve unsubbed from all beauty boxes. I’m going to work on panning and using the mountain of products I accumulated in 2019.

I’m not setting a budget or “replacement only” type thing. Instead, I’m allowing myself to MINDFULLY buy just one single product per month. It can be anything from a drug store lipstick to a Lush bath bomb to a perfume. If I need a replacement for something that’s also included in this. But realistically I won’t need to replace anything for a while. And if this becomes an issue I’ll reassess as the year progresses.

For now this is the best, most realistic sys

Hey fellow rehabbers. I wanted to make a post as I’m looking to plan a low/no-buy year in 2020. This will include severely cutting down on my spending on things like clothing, makeup, eating out etc as I’m trying to save money for school. I will include a small seasonal clothing budget and replacements only for makeup.

One of the things I’m struggling with is how to manage and budget my subscriptions. Currently I am subbed to regular Boxycharm and Ipsy as well as Netflix, Audible, Spotify. I will for sure keep the three latter ones. But I’m struggling on what to do with my beauty boxes. On one hand, I think they’re fun and a form of entertainment — I like discovering new products and discus