Avery & Omar
I'm getting caught up on Avery and Omar's season of Before the 90 Days at the moment. I've been reading through the discussion posts every episode and I need to talk. I've seen a lot of people say that they aren't rooting for Avery and Omar, and/or that Omar is not emotionally invested in Avery.
So far, they're one of my favorite couples. I may have a soft spot for them because Omar reminds me a lot of my own husband or maybe because Avery was a friend of my sister's in high school. I just want to defend them.
My husband grew up being told that men don't show emotion and yada yada, similarly to Omar. I have no doubt that my husband does love me and I really don't doubt that Omar does love Avery. Sometimes when men grow up being told that men need to be strong, they can seem entirely shut off from their emotions but I think they just show them in different ways. When my husband and I have been separated for an extended period of time, he's never cried but showed his feelings in other ways. Like Omar, he would tell me not to cry, kiss my forehead, wipe away my tears. To me, it's clear that Avery and Omar love each other, they just have different ways of showing it.
Now Avery. I'm about 80% sure that I met her one day I was picking up my sister from school but I won't swear to it. However, I did ask my sister about her when I connected all of the dots. My sister said that she is a very sweet girl but has always been impulsive and not exactly the brightest, though she did work hard. She became Muslim kind of on impulse- she met a guy and converted for him but when they broke up, she decided she would keep her religion. Her mom did the best she could but worked a lot to provide for her family and give them the best lives she could. (If I remember correctly, Avery totaled her brand new Jeep that her mom bought her on prom night.) I imagine some of her impulsiveness could come from wanting more attention but that's just my thought. All in all, I really want the best for Avery because she does seem sweet (deep down) and I remember the way I thought of my own self when I was her age- I know it all and nothing can hurt me.
Anyway. Thanks for listening to me ramble. I just needed to rant, I guess.
Posted Jul 16, 2020, 4:50 AM UTC
She seems sweet and I'm glad he has a degree and a good job.
Honestly, he's doing a lot better for himself than most of the people on the show!
Agreed! He’s a victim of his passport. If he was a dental student with almost any other passport they would just finish up his education and not have to worry very much at all
I wish it wasn’t true but you’re absolutely right.