Easy fix
Dump her and find a girl you would be comfortable dating/marrying so you're not wasting each other's time.
Sleep with as many woman as you can so you can feel you're on the same level
Keep dating her and become more and more insecure/jealous while you worry that she will cheat on you at some point
Posted Apr 3, 2021, 7:00 PM UTC
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Why does it bother you so much?
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Seriously, what is happening here lately?
Overused and worn women complaining about being like that and trying to blame men?
Btw. No 2 doesn't work like that.
Yeah, I've seen another post on this topic yesterday. People can and will judge who they want. Showing disrespect to another person is not acceptable, but internally judging someone is something that can and will happen, and will often subconsciously influence their decisions.
I don't understand what did you try to say. Yes, when I'm about to make decison I think about it and take pros and cons. That is decision making.
I personally don't care that much about a girl's N count so long as she's free of STDs but I disagree with the sentiment of your post. If a guy doesn't want to date a girl with a high N count, that's his choice, and his right. Just like how a girl is not forced to date a virgin or a guy with a high N count.
People can be insecure and judge whatever they want. Men and women.
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I mean... getting tested regularly is just part of being a responsible sexually active adult, so that's a pretty weird standard. If you're not interested in women who have multiple partners, I hope that you're being super selective and keeping your number low, too.
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I mean, what's wrong with asking them to get tested? Not every girl with a high N count is full of diseases. There are girls who are responsible and always use protection.
If you wanna have unprotected sex, get tested. You shouldn't be having unprotected sex with a person you hardly know anyways, if it's that much of a big deal to ask her to get tested.
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Fair, you're entitled to your preferences
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Most men don't want their wife to be one either.
So don’t impregnate one...simple
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They made me lol
You're entitled to sleep with as many or as few people as you want. You are not entitled to be free from the consequences of your choices. Choose accordingly.
This. You have freedom to do as you choose. You don't have freedom from other people's reactions.
That goes both ways. Dudes are free to think shitty things about women who've slept with more people than them, and the rest of us are free to think those dudes are shallow, insecure, and judgy.
This is especially true for the kind of dude who is out there getting laid as often as he can, but then turns around acts shitty when he realizes a woman did the same thing.
It is quite funny when women are concerned about double standards when it is not into their favour. All of sudden they are full of equal standards and shit.
The problem with this that those are two different things.
If there is a man who managed to sleep with 100 women then he has to be somehow special, it is extraordinary number.
If woman, at least average looking, want to do that she need probably 100 days and Tinder to do that.
You know it is true and the value of those two things is totaly different. Only women whos value on dating market is plummeting or simps will deny that.
That's a very strange way of looking at sex, to me. I'm not impressed by high numbers in men or women; men and women both enjoy sex, and if all you're looking to do is get a higher number of partners, it's not nearly as difficult as some people seem to think it is. More importantly, I don't think that it matters.
I understand it matters to some people, and that's fine. If you're the kind of person who cares about the number of partners someone has had, then that's just another way of weeding out prospective partners, and that's a win for both of you, right?
The guy who sleeps with 100 and wan is spot on. There was a study where they had an average wan ask 100 men if they wanted to sleep with her and something like 98 said yes and when they reversed the roles 0 women said yes to the guy.
If a woman's numbers are high they likely have some issue that they are trying to make up for, it's the Facebook like of sex.
Personally I don't have an issue if a girl has a high N count unless she is infected with contagious STDs. At that point, its not because I'm some judgy asshole, but because I'm concerned for my own health and safety.
I dated a girl who had a pretty vibrant sexual past, threesomes, thruples, lots of past partners. I didn't have much experience. She claimed to have always used protection and I always use protection anyways so I wasn't concerned about it in this scenario. But at some point in a relationship unprotected sex would be nice to have so that's why the STD thing would be concerning for me.
I think it's smart to be careful and to be concerned about STDs; getting tested regularly and using protection are obviously important, and I don't judge someone for saying "someone with an incurable STD is a deal breaker for me," but I think that's very different from the generalized "concern"/discomfort that a lot of dudes seem to have around women's sexual pasts. The concern shouldn't be the n, it should be "are you clean?" at that point. You can have a hundred partners and not have an STD, and you could have been with only one person and catch one.
Would you see that woman as a potential marriage partner?