Daily Questions - June 29, 2021
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Posted Jun 29, 2021, 5:42 PM UTC
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Hi, fashionistas! I tried posting this elsewhere but likely did it wrong, so my apologies if you see it twice.
My employer is holding a gala this summer, which they do every summer. It's not your typical gala. It's got a sort of magical fairy night, bacchanalia feel to it. Outrageous is encouraged and they definitely get it each year. People come in costumes: witches, fairies, magical creatures, gods, goddesses....they also come in formal wear, summer wear, it's sort of anything goes. Having said all that...my dress is a bit conservative since I'm new at the company. I want my shoes to be WILD to make up for it. I want super high heels but wedges or platforms because it's outside on natural un-level surfaces. Make up will have lots o' glitter, dying strands of hair to match dress...but the shoes. I was considering some lovely D&G birdcage shoesbut they are about $6850 outside my budget, ha. I was also looking at high combat boots, but black is too wintery. It will be hot. Basically, I want wild shoes since my dress isn't too outrageous. Any suggestions? TIA!!
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Honestly, I'd probably go to a thrift store and DIY something from a pair of shoes there (hot glue gun some moss and paper mache mushrooms on a pair of platforms, or butterflies, something like that). I'd also like to work for your company, please.
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Every day I go to work sure that I'll be fired because I can't believe they pay me to work there! I'm in my 40s, so after....25+ years of jobs that were either meh, completely crappy, or just plain old unchallenging and unfulfilling, I consider myself super lucky.
As for DIY, I was JUST looking into this. But..do you have recommendations for a shoe on which this could work? I'm not terribly crafty. I do have a glue gun though, so...have glue gun, will try. Like, lucite? Plastic? Faux leather? No to the thrift store. I love a good deal, but can't do used shoes. We all have our things! THANK YOU!!
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That sounds amazing. Congratulations!
Re: hot glue - pretty much every material should work, just be careful with thinner plastic (for shoes and decorations) because it could melt. I'd probably also stay away from suede (haven't tried it, but my crafty gut says no). Textiles work too, but the glue might penetrate a bit into the material (or anything that's porous, really) making it harder to work with. Good luck!
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A beautiful headpiece/fascinator would add glamour and contribute to the theme of the event
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[edited because original suggestion is out of stock]
Definitely check out Irregular Choice -- they do wild for sure.
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Oh I love them, and at this point would have splurged but there are none in stock. Now to see if I can find them elsewhere! Thank you! Exactly the kind of thing I'm hoping for. :)
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i can't help but can you tell me the dress/where it's from! i kind of want it as a wedding dress lol. Also the shoes are amazing, but yeah...pretty pricey!!
have fun!
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Welp I got it from a knock off site form China! I wasn’t sure how it would be but guess what? It was perfect! I watched unboxing videos ans read reviews first. They can customize different colors and while that costs a bit more, still less than a typical wedding dress! I think it would be beautiful! Note that it’s totally sheer where the lace is, but you’ll probably have some pretties on anyway. Here is the link. https://www.thecelebritydresses.com/mila-kunis-2011-oscar-lavender-red-carpet-dress-celebrity-dresses.html Congrats!!
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this website is so interesting! i had no idea this existed. thanks! glad the dress worked for you.
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Good luck with your wedding and dress!! I know the site seems sketch as hell, but watch unboxing videos and such and you'll see it's surprising legit. I'll take a pic of me too when I get it altered. It's about 8 inches too long in the front. I'm so short.
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I don't have any shoe suggestions to add, but if you can't find the right shoe, maybe you could look for some kind of fantastical piece of statement jewelry. Macabre Gadgets comes to mind.
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Have you checked out dolls kill?
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I have...I think I'm a little too old for it. It's cute though! Just need to look a bit more grown up. Which is why I can't find the damn shoes! I hate dressing like a grown up lol
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You don't list a budget but Sophia Webster might be something interesting. Fluevog is totally a different style but might also work.
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I just went to the Fluevog store in Boston this weekend! I think I'm being too particular because I normally love their stuff and nothing "spoke to me." (Yes, I know that's ridiculous). And I just looked at Sophia Webster, which is outside my budget and absolutely stunning. The first pair I loved has my daughter's name! It's a sign! (no it isn't haha!) Thank you for these!!
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Check out Kat Maconie shoes! They are so cool!
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Can anyone recommend a fashion blog that does European street style? NOT European fashion influencers - but more like random people actually living their lives in Europe and how they dress going to work, running errands, etc! Thank you!
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https://www.hel-looks.com/ <-- I really like this one for Helsinki
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There's no specifically 'European' street style. People dress very differently in different places due to culture and climate. It would be impossible for any single blog to do it justice unless they had a presence in fifty different cities.
A whole suite of Instagram accounts for different cities cropped up after ParisiensInParis took off. Frankly none of them are as diligently maintained nor as good, but MadrileniansInMadrid and CopenhagenersInCopenhagen are not bad. The London and Milan ones are pretty disappointing though.
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Oh, I know there isn’t a “European” street style. I just meant any European city - at all - for street style. That’s why I didn’t specifically ask for Paris, or London, or Barcelona. I’ll take anywhere in Europe. Thank you for the Copenhagen rec!
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If you’re on IG, there’s Londonersinlondon and Parisiensinparis that does just that.
Edited to spell Parisiens right :-/
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Milanesiamilano does the same for Milan
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I found the London one but does the Paris one go by a different username?
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It's the spelling! Try parisiensinparis :)
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Yeah I found the London one too but not the Paris.
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Try parisiensinparis - it's the spelling!
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Hi everyone!
I'm looking for a jumpsuit. Ideally, I'd like it to be long-legged, short-sleeved, black or navy or olive. I'd use it primarily for travel (something wrinkle free?), but would appreciate if it could take me day-to-night. I like the Patagonia Fleetwith romper (especially the material, but also the cut), but it's a tiny bit short on me (5'6) and I'd prefer it to be under $100.
Any ideas?
Thank you!
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I absolutely love jumpsuits. My favorite jumpsuits are from Bohme, Albion Fit, and Roolee. Maybe you’d like one of these?
https://www.bohme.com/products/dennilynn-jumpsuit
https://albionfit.com/collections/jumpsuits-rompers/products/the-yes-please-jumper
https://albionfit.com/collections/jumpsuits-rompers/products/black-classic-overall-jumpsuit
This one from Albion is exactly what you’re looking for, but it looks like it’s sold out in most sizes :( maybe it will get restocked
https://albionfit.com/collections/jumpsuits-rompers/products/black-jumpsuit
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Those are great, thank you! I especially like the Böhme one!
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Roolee might have some decent options for you. They're a tad over your price range, but Boden has some nice jumpsuits on sale right now similar to what you described, and you could also look at the Eloise jumpsuit from Marine Layer.
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What brands make stretchy skater dresses like BlackMilk and LivingDeadClothing?
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I got this dress today and I am literally so excited! What shoes would you all pair it with? Also I have two weddings: one is more cocktail attire and the other is more formal but not black tie. Which one would this fit more? I feel like it could be dressed up or down so I’m conflicted! Same crowd at both weddings so I don’t want to wear it to both (but do plan to wear again at a beach destination wedding this fall!!)
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I love this dress! I would pair them with nude/brown strappy heels or mules. It's perfect for a beach wedding but I would not wear it to a formal wedding. You can wear it to the cocktail one with a nice clutch and accessorize with earrings.
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Thank you! That’s how I am leaning too. I’ll have to hunt down some neutral strappy heels! I have nude pumps but I want something more summery 🙂
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Okay, first off that is a beautifulllll dress and I’m excited for you!!! It can definitely be dressed up and down! A neutral strappy heel (if summer time) or a pump (for fall or winter) would be good with this dress, or you can pick one of the bright colors from the dress like this and find similar heels! As for my own personal opinion, I feel like this would be good for a cocktail attire wedding! While long, it’s not necessarily super formal but beautiful nonetheless. Plus, it would be perfectttt for that beach wedding! Hope this helped!!
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Oooh I love the red! That’s a great idea! I’m gonna have to go try some shoes on this weekend. Thank you so much!
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That is fucking GORGEOUS. I would say def the cocktail wedding.
Oh my GOD do I ever want this dress now, I hate you and I love you
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Haha thank you!!! It is so beautiful and flattering! If you have the $$ I highly recommend it! I do have to get it slightly altered on top as my 36B boobs don’t fill it out enough, so just a warning if you are smaller chested too. It might be less of an issue if I could size down but then it would’ve been too tight at the waist… so this could also depend on how your body tends to distribute weight. I tend to be thicker around my middle and hips and slender on top.
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Good dress! Wear it to the first wedding, as long as the weather is appropriate.
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They’re both in august so it should be!! Thank you!
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Ok fashion friends...is there a modern/current way to style these gladiator heels (not my actual pair of shoes, but the same color/style)? I bought them on a clearance rack for $13 a while ago, but haven't ever worn them because I don't know how to style them. They're a color that I'm comfortable with but they're out of my usual style, which I would describe as a mix of classic/nature-inspired/sophisticated-ish. Help!
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Not to say you can't wear them, but I don't think there is going be a modern/current way to wear them. They are very dated on multiple levels
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I would go almost avant-garde. Big poofy dress, or a skirt that billows out and draws the attention down towards the feet. There is a lot of volume going on in those shoes so I think you want a lot of volume up top to balance it out. Add trendy features to make it more modern, like puff shoulders or a sheer midi dress.
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I'd do a flare honestly but those are extremely outdated I'm my opinion
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Idk if its super modern but taper jeans and a button down maybe?
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Honestly skinny jeans and a cream or tan tank top
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Am strongly considering this purchase: Fancy cut out jumpsuit https://www.ae.com/ca/en/p/aerie/dresses-skirts/jumpsuits-rompers/aerie-twill-cutout-jumpsuit/0713_1194_271?menu=cat4840006
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That's super cute!
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I'm in love!!!!!
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Where are some good places to buy (or good styles to look out for) tops for a business casual office in the summer? It gets over 100F here with humidity and most of my current tops for work are the easy care polyester, so i am just dying of heat on my drive home. I am not big into button downs, price range is under US$100, and petite tops would be preferred.
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Loft is probably an obvious suggestion. But they have lots of business casual tops and full range of petite!
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I use Stitchfix in these situations. Most accessible business cas wear for women is either button down or poly, so it’s tough out there. Look for washable silk, tencel, Ts with a nice tailored fit. Also, I keep sandals and a T in my car for those hot drives. I mostly wear sleeveless button downs this time of year, because they keep reasonably cool and look nice enough.
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I have a buzzcut and a round face and a long neck, what are some good earring types for me? I'm wearing small slightly thick silver hoop earrings but I'm worried this is accentuating my long neck. Thanks!
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What! Since when in the world is a long neck a BAD thing? That's like, a trademark of beauty, that never changes, isn't it? Like, beauty through the ages. Look at artwork from any period. Look at models. Read poems describing a women's beauty. I mean, Look at any representation of beauty in women and there's a lovely, long neck. You should absolutely accentuate that neck. Shoulder dusters! Tit*y ticklers! You have a buzzcut, I'm guessing you're not a shrinking violet. Go for it! Also, I'm revealing my age here, but I've always loved one long and one short earring. You could make it your trademark look!
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I’m looking for a bag (or two) that I can use for things like weddings or galas. They need to be able to comfortably fit:
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a modern phone with a Pela phone grip,
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credit card, ID
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some cash (I always forget about cash tip at the open bar!!)
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and have a bit of room for touch up makeup like lipstick
I’m looking for a new-to-me bag I could buy used. The bag doesn’t have to have a fancy looking strap if the strap is removable and could be swapped for well-made wristlet…which I would also have to buy!
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helloo im looking for some suede purse advice! I'm eyeing a beautiful suede purse, but the last suede purse I had ended up with horrible discoloration on the back after it would constantly rub against my jeans during daily wear. Most protectors i have seen are mainly advertised as water repellents, but climate is not an issue for me since I live in Los Angeles and it never rains, so I'm more worried about denim staining. For my first suede purse, i didn't use any sort of suede protectant, so i was wondering how well protectants work against non-climate related staining and if it's worth splurging on a suede purse again. thanks!
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Those suede protectants are good for water and denim crocking (the name for the dye transfer). That said, the purse isn't sealed perfectly, but it mostly just seems to prevent the dirt/dye from attaching to the suede surface as much as it would if it hadn't been sprayed. You would still need to use a suede eraser or something, to help it clean up.
With that in mind, however, do you intend to wear your new suede purse with denim again? If so, I wouldn't recommend getting (a light coloured) suede 🤷♀️ It's gonna be a constant battle.
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thanks for the advice! yeah i would probably be wearing jeans quite a bit so maybe suede is just too much of a hassle :/
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Okay, so I read the post on “so you want to overhaul your closet” and I am still feeling so lost.
I am 31F. I work from home but work in tech so my clothing is & can be casual. I honestly feel best in skinny jeans with holes in the knee, Chelsea boots, a white t-shirt & a leather jacket or a blazer. I dress mostly in gray/black/white. I also wear a TON of athleisure.
I think I just want to have some nicer basics and love my closet.
Not really sure what I am asking for here. Just sort of blathering on…
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Don’t fix it if it’s isn’t broken! It sounds like you’re in a solid place with your wardrobe already, and can take your time upgrading some of your basics.
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What is making you want to overhaul your closet? Do you not like the clothes you have, or not have the right clothes for some activity you need to do, or something else?
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Oh girl, I feel this. I've worked for home since long before the pandemic. My wardrobe is all jeans, Ts, hoodies, and workout gear. I can buy formal, I can buy business, but when I try to get like, nice, casual clothes? Totally overwhelmed and no idea what is normal.
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I really like Lizzy Hadfield’s (@shotfromthestreet on Instagram) takes on what I call “office tomboy” style. My real muse in this is Emmanuelle Alt, the (soon to be ex- ?) editor of Vogue Paris.
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Ooh, love Emanuelle Alt. Interested in any other IG recs you have because I think you & I have similar style.
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Hi! I’m a month postpartum and about 25 pounds heavier than I’d like to be. Looking for some high waisted leggings that can do double duty as workout and regular wear as I get moving again after cleared by my ob. Help me feel better about my mom bod please!
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Thanks! How “compressive” are they? Like hard to get on?
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Honest, I have had great luck with Old Navy High Waisted leggings. They don't roll down and my post-babies muffin top doesn't er, rise up over them. and congrats!
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Awesome thanks! Definitely lived in their maternity line
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VS Pink seamless workout leggings are my jam. They really flatter and hold up well.
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Thank you- would never have thought to look there. Are they true to size?
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I think so. I’m 5’9” and 155lbs. I wear a medium or large. Usually a medium but I have narrow hips
Here’s me yesterday in size medium: https://imgur.com/a/BYceXbA
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Can y'all share your favorite bike shorts outfits? I just got my first pair and I'm looking for inspo
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I did something with them and a hip length dress shirt that was so bad someone accused me of photoshopping myself, so. Avoid anything hip bone length LOL.
I like them with longer crew necks/hoodies, belt bag and runners for super casual looks. (Long) dress shirt, cross body, and combat boots for a sort of business punk look. Tight crop tops and SUPER chunky sneakers for a heaux look ahaha
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You had me at "business punk" lol
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@styledbyflorencia on Instagram posts a lot of cute bike short outfit inspo!
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@lindsaysilb on Instagram has been wearing bike shorts a lot and has cute looks!
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Looking for a burgundy or bordeaux purse that has some interesting but not over the top detail. I'd really love something like this:
https://www.sezane.com/us/product/t-bag/bordeaux-bimaterial#size-TU
but larger and more practical.
Any ideas? Budget is $500 or less, though I might be willing to go up to $600.
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I am the hunt for some functional leggings for hot summer weather. My only issue I am running into is I can't seem to find any that have traditional pockets like jeans would have and those types of pockets are very useful to me.
Are they any leggings that offer two pockets in the back and two pockets in the front (pockets you can actually use)?
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I don't think you're going to find many leggings with functional pants pockets (although lots of athletic leggings have side pockets for phones), but there are way more options if you look for joggers or loose/wide-leg pants. In general the tighter the pants, the harder it is to put large, usable pockets in them.
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I don’t think you can find something that has pockets like jeans. But Athleta has super comfy leggings - Elation has only one pocket and Salutation has two I think? It has to have powervita fabric cause that’s the one that you can comfortably wear during the summer.
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Try looking up cargo leggings. I bought some from a boutique a while back that no longer stocks them so I cant recommend a specfic brand but that search should yeild similar pieces i.e. legging fit but w/ pockets rather than a looser jogger fit.
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perhaps an odd question but are tightish shirts still considered inappropriate to an interview? I have an interview Thursday and the shirt I plan to wear overall is appropriate: it’s nice quality, a high square neckline, not too short, kinda flowy at the bottom, not too bright. But the problem is my chest is on the larger side and anything that doesn’t cling to my chest makes me look like a shapeless blob. I feel like I’m breaking some sort of weird rule if you can see my chest though
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Would wearing a blazer over it be an option? Could be a professional way to dress it up without drawing attention. Good luck in your interview!
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For busty ladies usually stretch knit tops are the main go-to. I would say it’s fine, but add a nice cardigan over the top that is in one of your most flattering colors
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What are everyone's favorite instagram accounts for style inspo? Trying to spice up my feed. All styles welcome.
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I’m on a maximalist kick so here’s a bunch of loud and colorful accounts: @fashion0utsider (underscore after fashion), @stufflucywore, @stormmonae (underscore after storm), @beaworkofart (underscores at start and end), @areasontogetdressed, & @yothriftyteacher.
Edit: oh no formatting why
Edit 2: I had to remove the underscores to make reddit happy, I almost deleted this instead but sunk cost at this point
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If you'd like another colourful account, @juppimentel has some really nice colourful outfits. I saw loads of then on Pinterest and whilst I'm not brave enough to attempt wearing them, it's great inspiration!
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i really like @thenotoriouskia, @nic.taliaferro, @karenbritchick, @upnextdesigner, and @thriftntell!
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Crunchier recs: catinawitchhat (wide range of fantasy and historical influences, very creative layering), rachel.maksy (historical influence, also a YouTuber), maimagi (witchy/Viking goth)
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@styledbymckenz and @peruseproject are two of my faves!
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I have a question about boden dresses: I have wanted to buy one for a while, but I get very overwhelmed by the amount of options on the website. I know they have a lot of filters, but even then, it's overwhelming. What makes it even more overwhelming is that different colors of the same dress are different prices (I know this is not uncommon at many stores) and that they have both petite and regular sizing (as somebody who is 5'3-5'4" I'm right in between and their sizing suggestion thing is telling me I should pick a regular size, but I'm torn because historically there have been some articles of clothing that fit me better if they are petite sizes). And if I'm spending $75+ on a dress, it'd better fit me well. So I get paralyzed and don't know what to do. Have you figured out any way to shop at Boden? Do you go in store? Are the dresses really all that much better than, say, Landsend jersey dresses? I get that the prints look cute(r) but... landsend does have some cute prints every now and then as well. Thanks!
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I have a couple dresses from there that I really like! Mostly I just look through the sale ones and then there aren't so many options
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I’m a similar height as you and love Boden! Here’s how I filter:
- Sale: I never buy full price from them because the sales are pretty frequent.
- Fit: I have short arms and a high waist, so usually go for petite. However, I also read the reviews to see if people around my height and weight have had success with a different fit.
- Color: I know that yellow, orange, and beige don’t suit me, so filter these out automatically. Think about if there are colors you are or aren’t looking for, which will clear out a lot of clutter. Definitely leave the multicolored option on to get fun prints!
- Material: this is a great way to narrow based on preferences (for me, I filter out denim, wool, cord, and velvet if I’m looking for summer).
- Style: I LOVE that they have a filter for dresses with pockets.
- Other filters: I don’t have strong preferences for length/sleeve length, but they can be useful if you do.
In general, I do think that their items are great quality for the (sale) price, and are cut much more flatteringly/have better prints than anything I could find at Lands End. Good luck!
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thank you for this advice :)
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Hi should I try these for the lols? And then report back about whether or not they're good? Anyone else seen ads for these and caved?
If you end up buying them please come back and tell us your opinion
I bought them! So far I’ve worn them to one wedding (and the whole week before that to make sure I wouldn’t be uncomfortable, but they didn’t need much breaking in).
I liked them! If you have specific questions lmk.
haha will do!
I bought them! So far I’ve worn them to one wedding (and the whole week before that to make sure I wouldn’t be uncomfortable, but they didn’t need much breaking in).
I liked them! If you have specific questions lmk.
Oh wow!
Do you feel supported in the flats version as well as the heels version of the shoe? What did you buy? Are you usually a person who wears heels?
Aside from the heels thing, do they run true to size or wide or narrow? (I'm a narrow foot-ed person myself, though I solve this problem by buying sandals + heels with straps, which these guys have I think)
Yes both feel supportive! The feeling of the flats took a little getting used to because you have to put your weight on them to get them totally flat, but it wasn’t uncomfortable. I would say it feels more like a heel that changes into a flat than a flat that changes into a heel, which is good because I want the most design/support when wearing it as a heel.
I bought the sandal with a 3 inch block heel in patent sand. I prefer flats over heels: I only wear heels when I feel like I should or an outfit truly needs them. My city is pretty laid back so I don’t feel the need to wear heels when I go out around town. I mostly wear them to events.
I’m typically an 8-8.5 and I ordered an 8, which was fine for me in the sandal shape. I sometimes find myself making shoe straps tighter, but I think I’m average to narrow. I didn’t have to set these straps to the most narrow setting but i did move a couple holes inward. In fact, I loosened them later that night. The only place I got any friction was around the ankle strap and I still had room to loosen if I needed to.
What an incredible review, I am now buying myself some heels lol. Thank you so much for answering all my questions!!
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Uh oh. I definitely don't have ankles of steel--and I do walk quickly (though I don't think my stride is long, I'm not a long person).
I tend to live in flats though so I anticipated this would be a walk around in flats and then sit still and look pretty in the heels--or at least, minimal walking in the heels.
I don't like walking in heels where I live because it forces you to walk on the balls of your feet which and take more mincing steps, and I like the confidence and don't-fuck-with-me of a good heel strike lol.